14 year old girl whos fed up of being so down!

[xxlizziexx]

im sick of feeling down i really really am, before i used to feel down in the evenings and i used to eat bananas as a little pick me up, but that doesnt work any more, and its ALL the time now. i feel so down and hurt and really lonely, when it starts to get bad and go in one of them "moods" i try n perk myself up, listen to happy music, read funny things, try n talk to my friends n have a laugh but it doensnt work, i jsut feel worse and worse and worse, i wirte like poems n stuff n that helps get it out of me but it doesnt get the "mood" out of me. ive been feeling like this 4 about 4 months now, non stop, and im completly sick of it, i dont understand why my emotions wont be truly happy for once. i got ova my ex boyfriend and that was very painful, the break up i mean, so i get over him, and then i start ot feel lonely, i tryed getting with another guy who really made me feel spceial, like all he wanted was me sorta thing, made me feel good, but he lead me on and got wiv sumone else instead. its just, i no i have a gd family n freinds n stuff but i cant help but feel lonely, what can i do about it? how ican i cheer up? sorry its so long just i needed to make my point. any adivce would be nice and very grateful. oo and my mum doenst know about it, i had a really abd weeknd wen al i did was cry but i got over that and she just thinks im not that down any more, x x x x x

[woofgang]

Honey, you must talk to your mum about this and go see a doctor. There are lots of things that happen to your body at this age that can put your hormones out of balance and affect your feeling as well as all the emotional stuff that people your age have to deal with. I promise you that it can be fixable if you get help to deal with it. You aren't the only person that this has happened to, as i expect the next posts will tell you. Be brave, go talk to your Mum, get some help and let us know how you are getting on (hugs)

[Beth1989]

Hey sweets. I am 15 and I occasionally get this. The only way i get through it is to grin and bear it. I think a good cry is helpful every so often and i just cry. Have you told your friends? Your friends will most likely feel the same and you could see how they get through it. I hope your ok, x x x

[xxlizziexx]

thanx 4 the answers so far,

i know i used to get it occasionally but i get it all the time now, it just seem slike its something that wotn go away! yeah some of my cloest friends know, they say they get like it a bit but not hwo i descrie it, i just hanvt got a clue wot to do x x
thanx! :) :) x x x

[landie]

Hi hun,

Some great posts above:-)

It's very easy to get into a downward spiral and feel that you're not a part of everything thats going on around you. I find the best thing to do is start by adopting the attitude that you are a valuable asset to society and that, although they don't necessarily say it everyday, everyone loves you.

Try to find a liesure activity that really interests you and get yourself stuck into it with all the energy that you can muster. You'll find it a good way to make lots of new friends who share the same interest and you will find that life becomes a better place and on that deserves you as part of it.

Good luck, go for it, stay with it. xxxxxx

[Iadagor]

:( I know what yur going through. I'm 16 and I went through something similar. Try singing or just listening to music you really love, it always seemed to help me.

[feelap]

hello! Enjoy the age that ure at now cos when u hit my age (20!) u would kill to be younger again! Now u still have havent been trapped by certin things like, money, responsibilites, love etc etc So just remember that ure still at the age where u can have a laugh and do stuff and get away with it!

[misska]

Hi Lizzie.  Its true that a problem shared is a problem halved.  I think you need someone to talk to.  Someone you can tell all your negative thoughts to, who'll listen and give you love and cuddles.  Could you talk to your mother about it.  I bet she would be really upset if she knew that you were going through this all by yourself and feeling like you couldn't ask her for help.  If you were my daughter thats how I would feel.  I would also suggest talking to a counsellor.  I know it sounds a bit scary but I've talked to some at different times in my life and they have really helped me through tough times.  You might have to try a few different ones until you find one that your comfortable with.  I hope this helps and you are feeling better soon.  Lots of love and hugs, E xxx

[xxlizziexx]

thanx to all of ur answers, had helped :)

misska ive had counsolers before, in school and out of school, i went back to her again and again and again and then we stoped, i dont want to go back to her shes a loverly person n everything just i dont want to go back to her, my mum will just think im being silly, i know she will, she'll think im overacting beacuse i dont walk around all down etc. xx

[misska]

Hi Lizzie, I really think that you need someone to talk to. You said that one of the things that gets you down is that you feel lonely. One way to not feel lonely is to reach out to someone and tell them every thing that is going on with you. Just talking about problems is a great way to find a solution and also help you feel less alone. So you need to find that person. I really think you should try talking to your mother. What have you got to loose? If she says that you're being silly it won't matter because you know that you're not being silly and everyone that answered your post agrees with you. Give it a go, if you don't take some risks in life nothing will ever change. And let us know how you get on.

Also, what Landie said above is a great idea. Go out and get involved in something that you're interested in like a team sport or a club or society. Do something you really enjoy or believe in that involves lots of other people. I think it would be a good idea for you not to spend so much time by yourself. I hope this helps and you start to feel better soon. You know theres a lot of people out here in the world that do care and would love to help you if you would only let them. Hugs E.