time

[wolfman999]

Hi,

can anyone help or advise me (i often tell myself im beyond help)

I had a fight with my GF we have been together for 2 years and living together 2 years, have a good relationship etc etc, we had a fight last saturday she moved out to her mums and said she needs time alone, how much time should i give her,

we are talking and missing one another its just hard for me, any advice maybe the ladies can help as you understand this 'time' issue

*sobs* any help... ps: we are in our 20's (dont know if that means anything when i usually have the mental age of a 5yr old)

[tamborine]

She's not sure of you and you may have frightened her. Be patient but keep in touch with her with texts till you win back her confidence.

[wolfman999]

Thats exactly what she said, she said shes trying to trust me, and get back what we had,

i didnt scare her, i was just an idiot that day, im being a real gent and patient i just love her, and everyday, hour, minute, second without her kills me i havent eaten for 4days or watched TV i dont know how i got to work, im looking very widrawn like johhny depp in edward scissor hands, not a good look.

how long should i give her though tambo?

[tamborine]

Ooooh you sound gorgeous - love Johnny Depp; if you're that irrisistable it shouldn't be long. How can you show her you love her, miss her and life is sad for you without her......you know that answer, as you know what she seeks.

Take this time to write down what you miss about her - send her a copy of your thoughts & feelings but mostly ingrain your loss to yourself so you dont repeat them.

[wolfman999]

hehe dont know about gorgeous crack your camera lense more like, lol, anyway i take your point i have told her these feelings im just scared she wont come back she said she needs time how long can i last...

lifes so hard alone without her,

did you see my suicide question...i feel like a waste of space right now

[dabees]

I hope you take this answer in the way it's meant Wolfman.

Reading between the lines, i feel that you don't care about yourself, or even know what/who you are. Your GF is feeling that about you also, the argument was just the catalyst she needed to take a break.

Get to know who you are and what you want, then your GF will find you easier to read.

[tamborine]

The voice of sense and reason is dabees.....she is in as much pain as you. Don't do anything more to cause her pain, work on re-building the relationship if it means so much to you.

You both have so much more time together to build a solid future......don't throw that away.

[wolfman999]

actually i didnt take that the wrong way,

i know i have lost myself in recent weeks/months, and need to change the way i am behaving, im not a total loss - write off i just went of the rails a bit, forgot how to be who i was, all is changing...

im trying to show my GF that im changing for the better, how long should i give her...or is that million dollar question

[wolfman999]

yep tambo, dabees if you are in a pickle and need to talk ill talk, i talk to much...

love is such a hard game to play

[dabees]

Not being rude Wolfman, but i've been there, done that. You've got to accept that you are a decent person and accept that your GF may not take you back.

You're still young and you have so many opportunities in life.

I hope it works out for you, but be happy with yourself, that way you can deal with things if they don't go the way you wish.

[wolfman999]

i know that ive been hurt once it was too much for me, i just think twice in a row, is death calling me, im not young im 26 ive been in and out of heartbreak i just want this or nothing

im trying to be happy with me, but shes the biggest part of me...

may i ask your age if you dont wanna tell are you older than me though

[dabees]

Email me Wolfman, if you wish.

[email protected]

I'm 38 btw.

[wolfman999]

appreciate that i will if thats ok...

[dabees]

Of course it's ok.

[TWR]

Hope this advise from an old fart helps, stick your pride up your elbow ( the both of you) get nutral ground, find the cause of your problems, talk about the problem, compromise on the problem, it takes two to tango, but do not do it through DRINK is this one of the problems, also sulks?