Nervous going to work

[karma22]

Got a touch of social anxiety and lack of assertiveness and confidence etc. and just started a new job.

Somedays I don't feel like I can go to work and do the job because of above reasons.

Whats the best cure - just keep trying my best and try and hide my lack of confidence? Some people at work have said to me they have noticed I am shy! so i'm not hiding it very well.

I managed to come across really smiley and confident in my interview and now I feel as though they might see that I'm not so confident as I appeared. My worst fear is that they will think they made a mistake employing me

[snags]

''I feel better about going in today now!''

Good! Are you doing the sandwich run by any chance? Bacon butty please :p

[karma22]

jno - I love that, thanks! x

snags - oo I could just eat a bacon sandwich now you've mentioned it. No time though - just ironing my shirt!

[Ankou]

no craft, just a highly paid people mender in the nhs.*



*(not really)

[Sachs]

Hi karma,
I feel for you x I suffered from this for a while, I seem to have overcome this now. My problem was being out of main stream work after bringing the children through school, I just lost my confidence. The first job I successfully got through the interview, but when I realised I'd got it & would have to start mixing with others, I rang & told them I couldn't go through with it!! It was to soon & my confidence wasn't there. The next time I got a job, I did struggle with work 'events' such as barbecues / Christmas parties ect.. I'd promise I'd be there & then wouldn't show. I would get upset & nervous. Sometimes I needed a drink to calm my nerves! I don't reccomend that at all. How have I changed? I suppose it was over time getting back in to mixing with people, gaining confidence in my job ect .. Any new job/ enviroment/ new faces will put you back a little, it takes time to adjust. Just keep doing what you're doing to the best of your ability. xxx

[karma22]

Thanks sachs. Glad you have come out the other side and hope I do too x if I try my best then if everything goes wrong I will know I have tried my best so its ok and if everything works out then thats even better! x

so true that saying jno about fooling other people but then wondering if you're fooling yourself too

[Sachs]

I wont say I've overcome it totally karma,
I still find some situations awkward, meeting people for the first time ect.. I should just take it day to day. Make your day the simplest for 'you' situation wise till you grow in confidence x

[Sachs]

'If everything goes wrong' I Identify with that outlook & I think it's all part of the 'social anxiety' thing. We're always thinking negative & looking for things that can go wrong, realistically it's never half so bad as we imagine it to be yet we work ourselves up about things don't we!

[karma22]

:-) must go now start work soon but I really appreciate all of your help and advice xxx

[Sachs]

My thoughts & best wishes karma! xxx

[society]

Karma - Chatterbankers gives the best advice and help :-); they are savvy, knowledgeable, and street-smart, and will not steer you wrong. All the best on your new job! x