absent dad

[hippyhoppy]

we/they last saw him on New Years Eve.. Is it my job to call him to chat to the kids or is he too busy with his new floozy! (lol - am half joking half Wassed off!!)

[snags]

My Dad is also absent...

[snags]

Did my stockings give me away?

[China Doll]

Have the kids call him and leave a voicemail if he's not there to call them back. It's nothing to do with you how he spends his time any more I'm afraid. At least if they call and he doesn't get back in touch for a bit, you won't look like you've tried to keep them apart or been derrogatory about their father.

[hippyhoppy]

snags... my dad is also 'absent' went down last October and he asked mother.. 'who is that lady staying with us!' my dad doesn't even know who I am!

[S_C]

the effort to keep in touch with his children should be his.

i dont know the visitation rights or even his cercumstances or reason for not seeing his child/children since new years eve . There could be a logical explination as to why he has not made an effort to contact since then or as you say he could be busy " else where" . which ever the case , it is still up to him to show his child/children that he wants to see them , chasing him to see / contact the child /children can be counter productive both for you and the child / children involved.

[snags]

My Dad died 10 years ago... I know... I went for the cheap joke.

[sara3]

hi hh :o)

I suppose it depends on the kids, and whether they're missing him. if you think he needs telling off, tell him off. has he arranged to see them soon?

[dothawkes31]

enough rope and all that.........have the kids noticed?

[hippyhoppy]

China - never been horrid about their dad.. and normally he has the kids.. but it's been two weeks.. I couldn't not speak to them each day... which he seems to find fine!

[mightyWBA]

As a single parent myself I know the frustration of the "other half" going AWOL.
It's best you ring him and just tell him how you feel.
If he hasn't been in touch for 2 weeks give him hell!

[hippyhoppy]

s-c - there are no 'rights'.. we parted on fairly ok -ness (lol not a word but you undersatnd) but he's not even rung to see how Gray has got on with GCSE stuff.... and Joey on his We Are The Champion stuff.. sad

[S_C]

that being the case hippyhoppy maybe a suggestion made by another here , that your children call him to say hi wouldnt be such a bad idea.

if he is busy it will be a wake up call , if there is another reason for his absence then it will be made clear.

as he " if i read correctly " has another woman in his life , your ringing him would mearly make it look like you yourself are still interested which could cause issue's that are currently may not be there.

once the call has been made , he should be the one to contact . " unless your child / children want to try again. but in all cases it should be his and their attempt to continue contact " for reasons already stated.

hope this helps