What is the answer?

[anotheoldgit]

http://www.guardian.c...ldren-dead-car-police

Yet another sad case of two beautiful children, who had all their lives ahead of them, but now will never know what it is like to play with other children, go to school, in fact enjoy a full life.

There are so many of these sad cases, caused mainly because the two adults who brought them into this world, cannot learn to live together.

Why is it these days, couples cannot seem to work at their relationships for the sake of their children?

[ummmm]

Most do.

[cherrychapstick]

yes and it is the ones that do end up this way ,they try and work at it for so long they forget why they are doing it the arguments get worse and the children get upset and then finally one cracks (they only split just before christmas ) you should never stay with a partner for the sake of the kids are you not better being sane and children be happy ?

would you prefer children to be unhappy cause mummy and daddy are always arguing even if you don't do it in front of them children aren't stupid they always know something is up!

[Gromit]

It is odd there were no cases of infanticide before 1997. I blame working mothers.

[jake-the-peg]

You were doing so well there AOG and you just had to slip up and add a "these days" into the question!

You really raised my expectations only to dash me, dissappointed on the rocks!

[anotheoldgit]

jake-the-peg

So you don't you agree that the divorce rate is higher "these days" than it has ever been?

[Ankou]

apparently it has dropped dramtically the last 2 years

[Nosha123]

The poor children were very young.. maybe she was still suffering from PN Depression??? I cannot think of any other reason why a Mother could physically do this unless she was not of sane mind...
She has to live forever with it now in her conscience!!
Just terrible

[spudqueen]

Nosha may be thinking along the right lines. There's a very severe form of post natal depression called pueperal psychosis, which fortunately is very rare. However many of the mothers suffering from this (though not all) commit suicide or kill their children. My sister-in-law had this, and though she did try to commit suicide fortunately she didn't succeed. There's usually one or two cases in the news each year, sometimes sadly when the mother has killed her children. http://www.mama.co.uk/aefiles/pueperal.pdf

[IggyB]

ha ha brilliant - thats why murder happens, bad family values lol
answerbank is comedy gold

[sara3]

Gromit, working mothers? I work.. it's that or claim benefits!

I confess that sometimes I get the urge to kill but that's usually my colleagues, not my children ;o)

[Gromit]

sara3

I wasn't being serious.

[sara3]

okay Gromit, but I was re my colleagues!

[anotheoldgit]

/// There's a very severe form of post natal depression called pueperal psychosis, ///

That's as maybe, but I personally think that all this Murder's problems were of her own doing.

How she amassed another £30,000-worth of credit card debt, after her husband had cleared her previous massive debts when they first met?

Here is an excerpt from a newspaper report.

/// He returned home from work on Sunday night to discover that his wife had barricaded herself and the children inside the family's £500,000 East Sussex home where he was living alone.///

/// Police were called and officers kept the peace while Mr Donnison packed an overnight bag and said a tearful goodbye to his family.///

/// The house had been turned upside down with cupboards locked, pictures turned around and keys hidden.///

Cont.

[anotheoldgit]

/// The next day when Mrs Donnison left, her husband changed the locks.///

/// But she returned on Tuesday and threw a brick through a side window to get in. Police were called and Mr Donnison left the house at 8.40pm.///

/// Last November, custody of Ollie, 12, and Will, 15, her sons from a previous marriage, was given to her ex-husband Derek McCrow who she divorced in 2003.///

/// Social services in East Sussex and Surrey were alerted to problems within the family.///

/// But after carrying out an assessment, social workers decided not to take the children into care despite evidence of domestic violence.///

/// Susan Butcher, a close family friend, said: 'He [Mr Donnison] told us his wife had a history of broken relationships with family members, lengthy periods of refusing to speak and mildly abhorrent behaviour.///

/// 'When they first met he discovered she had colossal debts and he cleared them for her.///

/// She said the couple tried to get back together over Christmas but their relationship disintegrated quickly.///

/// 'Paul told us she had now amassed another £30,000-worth of credit card debt,' she added.///