school photos mother stopping them

[mrskc]

Hi

can a mother stop a child having school photo?

ok back ground husband has not seen kids for 18 months fighting in court for contact.

called up school and asked if he could have a school photo and the school said the mother would not allow the kids photos to be taken......so my husband said he has p/r and he would like them to have it done(they are still in the school) headmaster said NO as the mother has said NO ....and she has full time care

can she do this?

[annie0000]

Not sure of the legalities, but I know that we wer told when the kids had their photos done the last time, we were told that they were being taken as the school had a requirement to hold up to date photos of pupils (security?) however parents would have an opportunity to buy these. We did have to give permission but I am not sure what would have happened if this was refused.

[cherrychapstick]

Yes the mother can ask for photos not to be taken,the school has to respect the wishes of the mother ... sorry this is just the way it is but if the shoe was on the other foot would you like the school to go behind your back and do something you asked them not to

[Whoever]

Unless there is a very specific reason why the father shouldn't have a photograph, it sounds to me as it's a rather vindictive act for a woman to withhold permission. Ask yourself how you would feel if the boot were on the other foot? Are you not using your children as pawns in this battle?

If the father is prepared to go to court and face all that hassle and expense for the right to contact his children this suggests to me he cares about them very much, even if he doesn't care about you. You children will be the loser if you stop them having contact with him. When they are old enough they will make up their own minds about why they were prevented from having contact. Will your motives then stand up to the light of scrutiny?

[Old_Geezer]

Unless circumstances dictated otherwise I would have thought the morally right course of action was that both parents should have rights in this area. It wouldn't be a case of going behind your back and doing something you asked them not to, it should be a case of informing the one parent that the other had given permission so it would go ahead. After all I can't see this as being an 'only act if both agree' type of situation. It seems more reasonable that either could agree. Which is probably exactly why it won't work that way.

[cherrychapstick]

It is not always the case though ,there could be circumstances that we have not been told about ,the mother has not said that the father cannot have the picture taken she has said she doesn't want them taken for her own reasons full stop ,i had to do this a few years ago when i had to leave my hometown and my family and friends! ,i had to make sure they were not put in papers ,my own family could not know where i lived ,this might not be the case with these parents but we do not know ,if the guardian asks pacifically for something not to be done then the school has to stand by them that is the law!

[karenmac60]

Yes, we have to get permission forms filled out by the parent with residency before we can take photos of kids at library events and post them on our website. One of the main reasons being in case the father does not know where the children are (in the case of abusive relationships etc) and is able to locate them through the photos.