role models

[justineo]

My dad was one of 4 brothers born in the early-mid1920s, in a slum of Birmingham.  His dad was unable to work and so his mum worked in the factories around where they lived, up to the day she gave birth on 2 occasions.  Consequently, my dad must have seen my grandad in the home more than most men.  My dad and all of his brothers are all great in the home, cooking for wives and kids, washing-up etc. apart from all the 'male' jobs, which he also taught me to do. My brother's the same, great big tough bloke who does all the shopping and food preperation.  To get to the point, my husband is also a man who does loads of the housework and cooking, do you think I was subconsciously looking for this sort of man or is it just a lucky coincidence. 

[nfn]

They say we girls look for our dad in our man! Must be why I'm still single, I don't fancy bald 62 year olds! lol

[smudge]

Well, my Dad did go out to to work, but once home, was waited on hand & foot by my Mum. I never saw him cook anything, but on the very rare occasion he would make a pot of tea. Having said that, he was very clever with his hands, musical, arty, very gentle & the most comical Dad you could ever wish to meet.

On the other hand, my husband works, gets shopping on the way home, enjoys cooking delish meals & is very helpful. It's probably because his Mum died when was only 14, so he & his Dad shared all the chores until he married me. He's also clever with his hands, arty, very gentle & comical too.

[shaneystar]

My dad was born in 1904 and was one of eleven children.He left school aged twelve and went to sea on drift net fishing with his father.They all had to muck in at home.He learnt to cook during his time in the army and could make lovely pastry.He could turn his hand to anything really.My three brothers are all very willing to do anything round the house.They can all cook and do shopping etc.
My husband on the other hand cannot boil an egg....but he is helpful in other ways.He will vacuum,mow the lawn,get the heavy shoppingand suchlike.All the heavy things I can no longer do.I wasn't looking for man who was like my Dad when I married him. I have got my Dad reincarnated anyway in my eldest brother!!

[metagirl]

most definately. its almost scary how we end up with partners that are just like dad. turning into our mothers is not a nice thing either.

[frizzytwig]

If I was you I'd just thank my lucky stars, my husband is a lazy gobsh*te around the house, even DIY which I always end up doing myself

[Kilala]

It must be a subconcious learned behaviour, as my real dad, who commited suicide when I was younger, was a bit of a gangster, shady deals, disappearing acts etc, but my step dad is this incredibly creative, practical, unselfish man.  My fiance will do anything for me, he even went on a boating holiday for 2 weeks with me, I only found out afterwards that he is hydrophobic!  (He said he thougt he was going to die every night!)

He tries his best to be practical, but I am naturally adept at it moreso than him.  So he is therefore like my step dad.  However, he has a shifty past, with some scary characters as drinking pals. Rather like a version of my biological father (with self control)  I am attracted to both of those sides of him, so he is both my Dad's!  How wierd is that?!