Loss Of Sex Drive

[lainiej]

For some reason I have completely lost interest in sex and any form of physical contact. This is affecting my marriage quite badly as my hubby is becoming really hacked off with me.I'm annoyed at myself cos I still love him. Any suggestions pls? 

[Sasha13]

Are you on the pill or depo provera? I only ask because my sex drive falls through the floor when I'm on either of those.

[lainiej]

Thanks for answering. No I'm not on any contraceptive cos he's had the snip. Not taking any other meds either

[mullein1]

if you are not on any medication then try taking ginseng and st john wort for a month and see if that makes any improvement..and tell the other half to be patient as you are trying to sort it out...

[alli mac]

I'm glad you asked this cos im exactly the same, although i love him to bits i dont fancy sex, although i did have a baby 6 mths ago i put it down to that, but its refreshing to know i'm not the only one.

[ondemania]

hmm. maybe you just need to spend some quality time together. im sure itl sort itself out soon. but dont feel pressurised into anything!

[purpose]

Firstly lainiej, don't be annoyed with yourself. You're not CHOOSING to have this problem, and you ARE seeking to rectify the issue... so that is the first step!

This may sound a bit 'inward', but how do you actually feel about yourself ? (I'm not asking for you to tell us all, but to think about it.) I have known people, including myself who have 'gone off it' because they/i had either a lack of self-esteem or other personal 'issues' which were not necessarily obvious to them.

Also, being careful what i write here due to this site being a 'family' one, do you ever feel sexy when alone? I'm not suggesting that you ONLY feel like sex when alone and therefore not with your husband, but if you DO have those feelings at other times it might be useful to look at why you do, and perhaps go from there.

Btw, it is completely NORMAL to lose interest on and off throughout your life. Most of us have experienced these feelings - so don't feel alone :0)

[lainiej]

Thanks to everyone who replied to my post. Much appreciated. We're working on it !