What to do....

[ummmm]

My 13 year old son has been looking positively depressed for quite a while now. He uses my phone to send texts. Tonight for the first time ever I looked through them. Not a pretty story :-(

He's obviously (thinks) totally in love with a girl. She feels the same way on some days but rejects him on others....and it seems to be really messing with his head.

I sent her a message on FB (maybe I shouldn't have done but I was angry) to tell her to stop texting him as she's playing as nasty game.

What can I say to him??? His messages to her sound almost suicidal....that's why I told her to stop texting.

I know her home life has been pretty tough from what he says....but c'mon, isn't 13 too young to be playing games?

[JB]

Don't be too hard on him - remember, you've got loads more life experience than him! No doubt the way you handle a situation now is a world away from the way you would have done it as a teenager.
You should, I think, point out how hurtful his messages have been (and could in some way have contributed to the 'jumping') and hopefully he will learn. Maybe stop him from using your phone for a while (although they will find a way!)
My experience of teenagers by the way (as I have no kids of my own) is my nephew. His mum (my vile sister) left him when he was a baby. His dad (my fabulous brother in law) unfortunately died a few years later. Nephew went to live with grandparents (my mum and dad) but looked to me for real life stuff! As you can imagine, there were problems, but he's a 20 year old joy now! Chin up, and don't get upset!

[ummmm]

Gosh....just when I thought it couldn't get any worse. I went on FB to see my daughters BF (almost 18) had posted that he's a single man again!!!....Just phoned her (she's in Ireland) and he was with her....someone hacked his account..!!!

[pericat]

Ummmm - just been reading all this - I'm so sorry - but you do realise you are probably feeling everything much worse than he is - he has good guidance from you and will come out the other side of this absolutely fine! Unfortunately they have to learn and we have to sit back and let them !

[LoftyLottie]

My son would have left home pronto if I had interfered in any way. He's never even discussed anything with me that he thinks I might get involved in!! He knows me well! Having said that, it's so difficult to stand back and let them take knocks. But we have to, and they do grow up the better for it.

I still get very worried about my son who is in his late twenties, but I have learned to not interfere or give opinions unless I am asked.