Play it cool, don't chase etc

[Tock389]

Can I have a moan here girls? People give me all sorts of advice on how to deal with ladies. Some say play it cool, others say treat them mean to keep them keen, some ladies like to be chased etc. Can you not just have one rule? I'm not saying it should be "access all areas" on the first date, but I wish you would make it easier for us singletons. This could include saying point blank that you're not interested, or saying you are when you do want us. Some women want a bit of mystery, but others don't. Discuss...

[Champagne]

Do you really think we're going to make it that easy for you???

{evil laugh} Mooowwah ha ha ha ha ha! Ha ha ha ha ha haaaaaaaa... HA HA HA HA HA HAAAAAAA... *cough splutter*

[monodge]

i reckon a safe bet is to chase A LOT because even if you dont make a huge impression ( not saying that you wouldnt!)  then the more you chase, the more the girl will begin to like you-even if she doesn't want to admit it!ive a number of friends who weren't struck by love at first sight but the guys kept persisting and eventually made some head way!Anyway, who wouldnt be dead flattered by someone chasing them the whole time?

[georgit79]

I'm afraid to say, Tock389, that there simply isn't one hard and fast rule. The reason you get so befuddled is because different women like different things, and are wooed in different ways. I, for example, like a man to show obvious interest without being too stifling, but have his own space as well....sound tricky?

Champagne, on the other hand, likes food, ros� champagne and doggies, apparently.

[Champagne]

I quite like monodge's answer. If in doubt, stalk them until they cave in. Ha ha ha!

[monodge]

obviously i dont know you champagne, but you seem to be ina really funny/giddy mood!its really funny reading your answers!

[polly1]

Excellent answer Champagne. Unless you are a total ugly bug then you'll probably get lucky at some point.

[maximo]

At the moment , I must say I would happily go on a date with any man with a pulse ! Desperate, me ?

Anyway, I think no matter how much and for how long you do the chasing, if the girl isn't interested, it won't work. Surely you must sense if she's interested or not ? If she laughs at your worst jokes, it's a good sign, for example. There is NO one rule, we're all different. Just be yourself, do whatever you feel like doing, and you'll get there.  

[Lore]

Women! the unsolved mystery.. just when you think you've got it right boys we'll widen the goal posts once again! }:o] mwohahahaaaaa

and the reason for this?  Because we can!!

seriously tho, we're all different as georgit said and we all have individual needs ( for want of a better word!) The best thing you can do is once you find someone you like you then have to find ways of showing her how you feel - find out what interests you share and build upon them.

[Champagne]

I'm surprised at you maximo. I thought you were exclusive to firemen and crane operators.

Tock389 is a ruggers lad. Big shoulders an' all that...

[Andy008]

The old cliche that women love a ******* is absolutely true. Given that a have a very dry sense of humour and a particularly negative outlook on life, this has never caused me a problem. Although, that said, many men do genuine want to be nice to women. Sadly, unless you are extremely good-looking this will never work, (and even if you, she will get bored eventually).

This obviously bothers you or you would not post the question. Doing what you have always done will get you what you have always got (or not, as the case might be).

Do something, anything different, and you will make progress. Trust me.

[Andy008]

Think about, if you're a woman and you are fit, getting laid is the easiest thing in the world.

If you are a woman and your pig ugly, getting laid still isn't that difficult.

The vast majority of women know this. Coming across as a "nice bloke" will just make you seem like all the other "nice blokes" she meets. And you will get nowhere.

[peagreen]

heard the old phrase the thrill is in the chase? have to agree with ^^ that a lot of women know how to get laid, but if you're after something more lasting than 24hrs then i think generally, let a girl know you want her and chase her.. but its already been said, we don't want to make it too easy for you boys, otherwise we'd have nothing to bitch about (the incompetence of men) with our friends...

[tartufo]

pursue pursue pursue, there is nothing more flattering than when a man shows interest!

[Booldawg]

I always find its best to moonwalk up to a girl in reverse, wearing a fedora at a jaunty angle. Ask her what her feelings are on liver and onions and ask her describe how the colour orange makes her feel. I then spend the rest of the evening moving around her in a circular motions talking about seismic movements in the North Atlantic plate, in a contrived, fake Gloustershire accent.

[Martch]

Get married and have kids, then show the photos of your babies around in the pub. At a stroke you will have become an object of desire to every single woman who sees them.

If you understandably don't want to go to the lengths of actually getting married first, then any old photos of nephews and nieces will probably do just as well.

[benzene]

http://www.fastseduction.com/reviews/doubleyourdating.sh tml

You won't go wrong with this ;)

[EmmaA]

i agreed with andy008 the first time but not the second, heres my view: (and ps, i'm a girl)

all women are different, some like guys to be extremly hard to get, while others would prefer to just boss them around  all the time. (yes, that was a euphemism) and there's a vast variety in between, so there is no absolute rule. but the truth is you do really have nothign to lose by being a little more forward, seeing as ive never met a girl who doesnt like to flirt a bit, and  nice guys are great. just dont push it too far, or continue to flirt if she obviously doesnt like you as much as you like her. true, this may work for some, but in my experience, they just get labelled stalker-freaks and blocked. but remember, i am just one woman/girl, and others may disagree completely or even need a bit of egging on cuz theyre naturally shy or whatever. just play it smart and pay lots of attention to her rules and cues, you should get far