Sulky boyfriend

[blue195]

Lately my fella has become really sulky and moany. I can't win! If he doesnt get his own way he gets the ump and goes really distant.

For example Saturday evening I stayed at his house as I was out around his way and had had a few glasses of wine (nothing over the top). He was unhappy about picking me up, then he got annoyed because I feel asleep when I got in. The next morning he was taking his little girl out for the day (he only has her a few times a week). They were going to a play centre but I alrady had plans. He got quite nasty when I told him I had to go and sulked off again. Bearing in mind I was out with them last weekend too. I left and haven't heard from him since. What on earth is going on in his head!?! Any suggestions please?

[Androcles]

Don't worry about it, blue, it's his problem. If he can't be bothered to be nice to you, time for a replacement.

[filthiestfis]

Dump him. Not whats going through his head but he clearly has no respect for you.

[blue195]

Its been 3 1/2 years though - its quite a long term thing :(

[filthiestfis]

Has he always been like this or just very recently?

[Androcles]

Same answer, blue, whatever is going on, he is determined not to be your best mate, so if he isn't prepared to tell you what it's all about, move on.

[blue195]

Just recently :-\ We have some fantastic periods and everything is great but as soon as he gets tired and isn't happy about something, he argues.He moved in with me a few months back and things have been great but the last few weeks he just snaps every now and then. He keeps mentioning marriage every now and then but then every few weeks he just acts so childish and everything goes wrong.

[cazzz1975]

maybe he prefers to live alone? things have started going downhill around the same time as you moving in together. maybe he isnt coping with the change very well, he may need more time?

[Prudie]

From his viewpoint do you know what he wants from the relationship? To be fair this can be read as you went out without him, stayed over at his because it was convenient to you, fell asleep and left the next morning. If a man did that one would think he was using you - perhaps if you explained to us more how things are, it could be he wants more than you are prepared to give and this makes all of us moody, man or woman.

[askyourgran]

Don't want to be picky, but it's possible that he's feeling a bit used. You stayed at his place because you were around his way, and he had to pick you up, (had he had any wine as well)? Then you fell asleep. The next day he was out with his little girl, rather than you making it a 'family' outing you couldn't change your plans to be with him and left him to it. Either you want to be part of his life or you don't! Just something you should think about.

[Prudie]

Snap askyourgran!

[madmaggot]

Have you asked him if something is bothering him?
Have you told him that you are starting to question his feelings towards you because when he gets sulky with you it makes you feel unhappy?
Have you asked him if he is still happy with you?
It might seem pretty basic but lots of couples just never talk about how they feel. Don't make emotive accusations though; just make it clear that you feel the relationship needs discussion; if it seems like degenerating into an arguement don't get drawn into a slanging match, just let it drop until another time.
Good luck.

[China Doll]

I read the post the same way as gran and Prudie as well I'm afraid... Not that you necessarily did anything wrong but equally, I can see how I might also be a bit put out if I was in your fellas shoes.

[blue195]

I know that it can seem that way and maybe thats what he feels but I stay at his all of the time and he was aware that I was out that night and he agreed to pick me up. When I got back to his he was half way through a film so I went to bed. He also knew I had plans the next day! I just feel its all been blown out of proportion over something so little and pathetic. Still heard nothing from him. Figured I would leave him to cool down and get in touch with me when he wants too.

[4getmenot]

You say he moved in with you a few weeks back. Is he not livng with you now then?

[flobadob]

He could be depressed and keeping it from you. Also, sometimes you should surprise him with a bit of you know what, if you don't already, without him having to ask for it.

[mccfluff]

i'm confused, has he moved in with you, as you say you were round his???

[cupid04]

lots of men sulk when they cannot get their own way.If he stamps his feet and throws a tantrum it sounds like he is reverting to childhood and wants you to mollycoddle him like his mother probably did.

[suzie1]

have you heard from him then? hows things

[cherrychapstick]

i think blue got a little confused with her / his story hmmmm , oh well