Tantrums in other peoples houses

[numnum]

How do you deal with your little one if they have a tantrum when out at friends house?

The reason I ask is mines had a tantrum the other day when at a family members house. I would normally take her out the room so that there isn't alot of people around, have a word with her and let her calm down and we would go back in the room and play

This time when i went to pick my little one up and go out the room a chair was blocking the door so i couldn't get out straight away and my mother and sister and law were like no no play with this ball, look at this jigsaw and getting cups out the cupboard to play with..

They were basically surrounding her and making a huge fuss around her which i wasn't wanting and i then ended up being a spectator to them dealing with my child rather than me. I don't like them surrounding her like that

[redcrx]

you should have been able to tell your mum that that wasnt how you deal with things and that they could play with your child after you had calmed her down.

But if would hardly cause a major problem if it didnt happen often

[lotsafun]

they probably thought they were helping you by distracting your little one. I know when my one has a tantrum in public i tend to feel a little embarrased if io cant calm her down and ive usually found that a stranger could probably calm my child when she is one of her moods than myself. Often it takes someone else to say to her ' ooh whats all this fuss about?'' and she stops still, in a kind of shocked way lol.

[numnum]

yes, there definately trying to calm her down. but when my sister in laws one has a tantrum i let her deal with it her way... whether it be leave them to it, put her out in the hall etc. i don't but in

i have my way and i just feel my little one had 3 adults fussing over her when i could've deal with it myself. i don't want her to start thinking that everyone is going to run to her as soon as she rolls around the floor crying

her tantrums arent overly unlike some of my friends little ones but still i just feel that its just bringing to much attention to her

i think i will do what you say. next time i'm over at my mother in laws i'll say as soon as i go in that if she has a tantrum i'll deal with it and not to make a fuss or bring attention to it. we'll just go out into the hall have a chat and normally when i get down and speak to her she acknowleges she's done something wrong and the tears stop and we can continue playing

[annie0000]

Kids are bright numnum, she will be aware that sometimes there are different rules for different places and with different people. You continue with what works for you, but I wouldn't get overly bothered if someone does something else while you are at their house. Gran's dont like to see the little ones upset as they dont see them all the time - us hard hearted parents know that we need to put rules into place and stick with them as the kids are with us most of the time and that's our job!