money as a wedding present

[smartie733]

My partner and i got invited to an evening reception of the wedding of my sons dad. the invite says instead of a boxed gift or vouchers a donation towards honeymoon would be appriciated. How much do people normally give?

[Prudie]

I think this is shocking but is becoming the norm these days. I suppose it depends how close you are to the couple but if you are only invited to the evening do I'd have thought you only need to give what you would have spent on a present - £25,£40, £50?

[boxtops]

This is your ex-partner's second marriage (if I understand your question)? I guess it depends how well you still know/like them...... we've given between £25 and £50 depending on the closeness of the relationship. Wwe were given similar amounts for our own wedding 5 years back if people didnt' want to give vouchers. If people asked what we wanted, we suggested help towards the cost of the wedding and people paid for specific items - registrar, help with bar costs, etc., which was nice.

[Sqad]

£50 tops

[smartie733]

its his first wedding we were never married. thats cool i was thinkin 100 but was not sure if a bit much if only going at night

[supersuezy24]

This time last year I went to a wedding, I gave €50 in a card..

[ummmm]

I wouldn't give anything if I was only invited to the evening do.

[ll_billym]

Nowadays a couple who are both working and have lived together for years tend to have enough toasters etc. so I don't see this as too bad a request/

I gave £25 to a couple who I was just friendly with and invited to evening do, and £50 to a very old friend who I've known for years and went to the whole day.

[bizzylizzy]

I suppose cash is better than millions of toasters, a bit of a 'cold' present but practical. Some cultures get given money as a matter of course don't they. We asked for trees for our wedding. We planted native trees at the bottom of the garden. After ten years it looked beautiful.. just one problem. When we moved away, the new owners cut them down!! We're still together though, so it wasn't an omen :-)

[karenmac60]

When I got married to Mr Mac, we both had our own homes and so were fairly established. Since Mr Mac had kidney problems we asked if anyone wanting to give a gift could give a donation to the local renal unit. It felt just plain greedy to accept gifts for ourselves since we didn't need anything and most people felt quite good about donating to a worthy cause instead of buying yet another toaster.

[ELVIS68]

I`m with ummmm on this one

[trt]

Did anybody offer a kidney karenmac60?