A belief is true at the time it is believed. You could travel back a few hundred years and find the majority of people believing that the earth is flat. It's not a fact, it's what they believed, so for them, at the time, it was true. That argument expands to any belief, including love. Disenchantment leads the believer to believe that he was deceived in the first place, but if he puts his mind back to where it was, he will find that the belief was valid, you just have to make sure that it still is. We are all a product of our experiences - including the bad ones - the trick is to not allow bad experiences to permanently distort the beliefs that make life worthwhile. Disenchantment is a natrual reaction to having a belief challenged, but it should be alowed to pass on without damaging core beliefs. It's not easy, but it can be done.