confused NEED ADVICE PLEASE

[blazerugby14]

I have been seeing this girl for a month now, she is something that i have never seen before in every great way, but we are not on the same level, I like her more. she has dated two guys in the past and still talks to one of them that she dated for 5 years he calls and calls but it s because he wants to get back with her, she tells me I have na worries!! So I choose to believe her!! But she is seeing me now . We hang out every day and talk for hours and text but she tells me she does not want a relationship right now and not ready so I told her I am willing to wait, my concern is she wants sex from me!! And she told me she does not date guys to just have sex and has never had sex with a guy she does not have a relationship with. she tells me she is going through a lot within herself and that I walked in her life at a random time, so my question is does she want just sex or to eventually have a relationship?

[redcrx]

ask her! we wont know what she is thinking. Some women do just have sex, others only do within a seriousl relationship.

ask her to be honest with you, if she doesnt see a future then you need to decide if you can cope with just a sexual relationship.

[blazerugby14]

i asked her an she said yes she wants one eventually when she is ready its just one confusing situation!! and as far as the ex boyfriend thing she told me she will always love him as a friend !!

[ummmm]

How old are you?

[blazerugby14]

old enough!! why does it concern you?

[redcrx]

PMSL. perhaps age may have helped ummmm give you an answer.

no need for such a reply was there?

[redcrx]

and it is possible to love an ex purely as a friend. unless she gives you any other reason to doubt her then all you have to decide is whether you want to continue as you are or walk away.

[blazerugby14]

24

[suzie1]

how good looking are you? are you good to be around (looking at your answer to ummmm, you dont seem like a nice person, but who am i to judge} are you fun, are you easily fooled, looks like it, shes using you mate and the sooner you see that and move on the better for you, your only 24, got plenty of time to be serious about someone, dont waste your time on her......enjoy life to the max

[blazerugby14]

sorry i just did not see the age being a concern!! i am a very ice guy and decent looking and in great shape!! i dont think she is using me when she calls and text me an introduced herself to me!! i think she is just scared of getting hurt!! how would she be using me and for what???

[suzie1]

great shape a nice guy, using you for sex..........wants you and the other guy, dont worry things happen for the best, good luck and really on a serious note, do you love her, u should talk to her- heart to heart, update us as to what happens please

[ummmm]

Age does mean a lot. We could be advising a 17 year old for all we know.

Someone who is scared of getting hurt tends not to have a sexual relationship with someone they 'might' see a future with...

[suzie1]

ummmm u r wise how old are you

[waterboatman]

Sounds like kitesurfer back again.

[ummmm]

36 suzie.

[Sqad]

zac.......LOL LOL

"whe hey fill yer boots."

What sort of sex did you have in mind?

[TTG]

Go for it. She might be just using you for a 'test drive' but who cares...at least you will have a happy memory to "recall" now and again... ;-)

[RedRockx]

This is what happens when you let someone else make the decisions -- you never know Sugar. Until YOU decide what you want to do, she'll be able to invade your confused head and make you seem like a fool. And her Fluffing you just confuses things more.

Time to step up, start making the decisions, and McFluff with her head for a change. Trust me, she'll find you alot more sexy, and more of a challenge, than what you've got going on now. Women love a strong man. Now go do it.