got to go folks,,,just had a very sad phonecall,

[Bobbisox]

My friend has called to tell us, another one of our friends son has died, early 40s
Kinda puts things into perspective?

Bobbi x

[Dris]

Think how theyre feeling then Joy.............take care xx
Dreadful shock-im very sorry to hear tragic news like this-terribly sad :(

[sherrardk]

Don't expect that this will make you feel any better but even though I recently lost my mam and grandfather within 6 weeks I am think I am probably more upset for the the parents of the little boy in one of my son's classe who recently died at the age of 5. Whenever I am feeling low I just think of their courage and then I give myself a kick up the ar$e.

[ladyalex]

So sorry to hear about this, Bobbisox.

That's terrible news.

[Bobbisox]

Bill is here but he is soo very upset...

[Bobbisox]

please...
I feel so utterly helpless for our dear friend, what do you offer in a case such as this?

[sara3]

will he be on his own? should you go to see him?

[sherrardk]

Personally, I would go around to his house (if he doesn't live miles away) - it doesn't matter that it is late, he won't be noticing the time. Go and just be there with him.

[Bobbisox]

he has another son sara, a younger one, I can't take this in at all x
I think they will be with him

[Bobbisox]

is is it a time for intrusion yet?
I don't know?
what's right and when the right time is x

[paddywak]

I wish I could tell you what to say Bobbi but everybody is different, some people want to talk about it some don't, some breakdown and others just seem to carry on as if everythings normal, all you can do is let them know that you are there for them

[Bobbisox]

thank paddy, my poor friend must be sooo distraught, first his wife, now his son...OMG!

[Jan1957]

I think I would call to say how sorry you are and ask if they wanted company? As others have said we are all different and some people want to be on their own and some people need the company. At least they will know you are there for them.

[Bobbisox]

Jan. I think you are right x
will go now, and thanks to everyone x

[marval]

That is very sad news, my thought are with his family at this sad time and with you.

[Jan1957]

Night Joy. xx

[sara3]

there are no rules between good friends. do what ever you think is right x

[AlBags]

That's bad luck Bobbi ..
Bad News.

[Mamyalynne]

Tragic news Joy, do exactly as you feel is right, sending sympathy to all involved.♥