Crush Mania

[Lov3shy]

Perhaps the idea of a crush is inspiring, endearing; perhaps it's a hell that no one wants to face. I, however, hate the crushes I experience because they're always on people who I cannot physically get (whether it be a celebrity or someone who lives too far away, or maybe because they're straight).

I am sexually confused and I have a feeling this ties in with these crushes, but they always drain me of confidence, of any self-belief (or most of it anyway). The problem is I don't want this to happen and, although a natural process (for it is human nature), I can't bear the pain of another which, by the way, is developing. I try to face reality to think that it cannot actually happen but the problem is my heart 'thinks' differently - inside, I know that it cannot happen but it continues (as most crushes do, I am sure).

Any help as to how I can reduce the emotional distress? It may help to know that I'm 17.

Thanks in advance.

[aka31_shinde]

same thing happen with me sometime i m 13!!! I think in this age it happens!!!

[Bbbananas]

Give it another 5-10 years - you'll grow out of crushes.
You may start to grow out of everything, including your clothes - that is much more upsetting.

[rowanwitch]

sounds strange but I think you should enjoy them... you feel foolish, and turned inside out at times and overwhelmed by such strong feelings and all the if onlies but its only emotional learning.... and hormones... its how you can learn to recognise the real thing when it comes it will be totally different... just don't stalk the person you have a crush on or tell them how you feel... some older adults have crushes too.... they get into far more trouble

[Lov3shy]

Yeah I guess so, it's just annoying they have to exist but, as you all say, it's emotional learning (and it's kind of painful too). I have another developing but I shall not stalk this person (don't worry, I don't anyway) but I will try to refrain from thinking about this person too much.