You're in your late 40's...

[Bbbananas]

what would you prefer:
a partner who really is not very proficient sexually, doesn't really turn you on, but is caring, thoughtful, generous and you have a good time together.
Or
a partner who is excellent in bed and turns you on, but can be selfish, often ignores you, doesn't make you feel loved and you don't particularly get on out of bed?

[Barmaid]

I'd go with no 1. Proficiency can be dealt with. (Experience over adversity and all that).

Having said that, I did have a relationship with a chap and sex was virtually non-existent. We had a great time. OK, so it didn't work out in the long run (our personalities clashed a little too much) but he is probably my closest friend in the world now.

[China Doll]

If I had that kind of choice I would chose neither Salla. I want the whole package and wouldn't be satisfied with a pic 'n' mix relationship so I'd rather be single with a subscription to Ann Summers in that circumstance.

[Bbbananas]

And the award for best answer goes to >>>>>>>>>> China.

I had someone who fitted all criteria once. Shame it went Pete Tong..... :-(

[ummmm]

I lied on this.....(Are you looking in champ?)

I forgot...I did go out with someone who was crap in bed...obviously thats how crap he was. Great looks, great body but absolutely useless.

[Bbbananas]

Ummm.... you mean you slept with a Legend ?!!!!!!!!

[China Doll]

Oh wow.... I don't think I've ever been given best answer before!

Ahem... I'd like to thank my father and mother for bringing me in to the world and God for the inspiration - although actually I'm an athiest... erm... Oh just gimme my award!!!

[Bbbananas]

Sorry it's not monetary china. Will a poo pot do (bone china) or a sample bottle with a sweet william in it?

[ummmm]

NO I DO NOT MEAN THAT....!!!! SALLA...!!

He just kept calling me a liar for making a mistake yesterday.

[Bbbananas]

I know ummm.... calm down love - I was deliberately winding you up. Gotta admit though - it was a good 'un!!!!!!

[Bbbananas]

It was the 'champ' bit that did it.............!

[China Doll]

A chocolate medal would probably do it... I'm easy to please.

[Bbbananas]

Isn't there a chocolate bar called a 'champ'? If so, I'll send you one in the post x

[China Doll]

There's a chocolate bar called a 'chomp' which would probably do...

(Still sniggering over ummmm shagging a legend though....I'll sit myself in the naughty corner).

[ummmm]

She really meant 'Leggy' that's what she was getting at...the bad bad woman..!

[China Doll]

Aye, I know... Just using her words.... <snigger> I've started again... I better go do something contstructive!