I am rather upset at the moment as just heard my daughter is in hospital................

[lilacben]

It is my birthday next week and she was going to tell me then that she was three months pregnant. But today the scan showed the baby was only three weeks and the sac around it six weeks. So now she is having a D & C. 18months ago she lost another baby at twelve weeks. that baby only measured six weeks and the sac twelve weeks, the baby had died. She also miscarried a baby before that. But had one in between. It is so sad and she will not let me go and see her. I understand why, because she knows I will be upset and that will make her feel worse.
But when you see all the news about children being abused it makes me feel so cross.
My daughter does have four other healthy children but I know she really wanted just one more.

[sara3]

that's very sad for her, and for you to witness.

I don't know how old she is, but maybe it's time to accept she has been blessed 4 times already, rather than risk putting herself (and everyone else affected) through this again.

hopefully she'll be ready to see you very soon x

[smurfchops]

I am sure you are very upset, who wouldn't be, but i I feel that as some people would love to have a baby and can't conceive, she is really lucky and maybe someone up there is telling her she should make the most of the children she has already, isn't four enough ? I am sure I will get slated for this, what do other ABers think ?

[lilacben]

Thankyou Sara ,smurfchops ,Many thanks. my daughter is 35 and yes she is very blessed to have four beautiful children. And I must admit I think her body is also telling her to stop now. But she loves children so much. She says how lucky she is to have them and about the poor women who cannot have even one. I have seven grandchildren in all and one more would have been very welcomed. I love them all to bits. Her husband works very hard and as long as they can afford them then I think one more would be ok. Anyway we will see. Have spoken to her and she says she is "fine" but then that was what I thought she would say. she never says "poor me"" but just carried on.

[tigwig]

I'm sorry to hear about your daughter yes. It is something she will come to terms with in her own time (and so will you). I would focus on the seven grandchildren you have already to take your mind off it and be there for your daughter when she's ready.
I'm all for people having as many children as they can afford, its when they live off the state that it riles me but in my personal opinion 4 is enough. Smurfchops maybe we will both get slated for our opinions but I think 2 is enough and when people have loads of kids they don't have enough time to give each of them the attention they deserve. Obviously I'm sure 3 doesn't make much more difference but 5 or more would. Sorry!

[smurfchops]

Well I'm glad I didn't get slated, I only managed to have one child, I wish I had one grandchild, let alone seven ! Lilacben, all the best for you and your daughter in the future, you are blessed to have so many children and grandchildren, hope your daughter gets well and strong soon.

[lotsafun]

so sorry for your loss, big cwtches xxx