Sleeping in separate rooms...

[ummmm]

Would you contemplate it?

He's driving me nuts during the night and constantly waking me up. He must have woke me about 10 times last night. I really wanted to punch him :-(

[B00]

Im with Lottie (well, not literally, we have seperate beds), as long as you still maintain a loving relationship i see nothing wrong with seperate beds or even bedrooms. Bickerings and rows because one of you is knackered aint no fun.

[RATTER15]

Rowan, I have done the sleep clinic thing, that was a nightmare!! I had bloody gulls outside the window screaming at 04.00 keeping me awake, nurses slamming doors, and my machine that I was attached to sounding an alarm every time my stats dropped.

It was more like a sleep deprivation trial!

They offered me an operation that was described as very unpleasant and not very successfull and one of those machines that meant I have to go to sleep wearing an elephants trunk!!

PASS!!!!

[ummmm]

He's very loving all the time so I don't think that would suffer.

[sophie_1003]

I've read a few times that women are more affected by sleep loss than men are so men can be quite unsympathetic when you're giving them murderous looks for snoring and fidgeting. I would definitely contemplate separate rooms if, when my boyfriend and me live together, his snoring gets as bad all the time as when he's had a drink; I need my sleep!

[LoftyLottie]

Good old BOO!! x

[ummmm]

Sophie....I think so too. I'm very grumpy at the moment.

[B00]

Actually, re-reading Lotties reply, it's alot like our house. The amount of times Mr Boo's zonked out on sofa and ive deliberately crept to bed so as not to wake him in uncountable.

The dog loves those nights, as she sleeps under the duvet in his place. If he eventually wakes and comes to bed, it's like her little world has caved in.

[LoftyLottie]

ummmm, Just tell Ginge you love him dearly but need a good night' sleep and disappear into the other room and then snuggle back in with him in the morning for a 'cuddle'. Perfectly acceptable in my opinion. Why is it necessary to actually share a bed with someone just because they are your partner. There is nothing written in stone.

[LoftyLottie]

BOO, that is exactly what happens in our house. I could have written that. Mr LL nods off, dog and I give each other knowing looks and go to bed. Mr LL comes up and dog huffs and puffs and gets into her basket. Hopefully, I am fast asleep by the time Mr LL comes upstairs and then can stay asleep.

What is worse is going to bed at the same time. The snoring starts almost immediately and I get crosser and crosser and can easily get physically violent.

[B00]

Yeah Lottie, horrible innit?

Lets just divorce the buggers, be alot simpler, rofl.

I hate when i want to turn over, and there's a small slope because they're there.

[ummmm]

Yes...the tention makes it hard to go back to sleep. It feels like when I've just dropped off again he's either being a fidget, dry humoing me, or snoring. Sometimes I want to cry.

Have to get ready to go out now. Speak later...have a great day everyone x

[LoftyLottie]

No can't divorce him. He's too useful around the place and handymen are expensive!!

Have a good anniversary BOO!!

[jno]

if he sleeps ok when he's on his own then a couple of possibilities come to mind. One is that your weight lowers your side of the mattress a bit and makes him more likely to roll towards you. Another is that your body heat raises the temperature a bit and disturbs his sleep (this happens to me, I find it noticeably cooler when in bed on my own). Neither of these would be deliberate.

[pastafreak]

I've only read the first page so far...but have you considered the type of bed that is 2 twins that clip together? You have the benefits of a proper double/king...but you don't feel the movement of the other person. Maybe if he does not feel you move next to him,he may not cuddle in as much.It worked for me and the ex when we rented a house with that type....I got loads of sleep-bliss

[Jemisa]

When we moved here (18 mths ago) before we moved in we agreed we'd have seperate rooms, for ages I hadn't had a decent nights sleep. HIS SNORING was the worst but kicking, f*rting, heat, & trips to the loo, + so many other things drove me bonkers. We've both benifitted from it & funnily it brought us closer in a nice way.
DO IT ummmm YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT..

jem

[anneasquith]

ummm, only one answer, bunk beds, who sleeps on the top is a private matter between you and mr.

[RATTER15]

Anneasquith, I would need to sleep on the bottom, if I was on the top my night time catheter bag would be hanging off the side and smack poor Mrs RATTER in the face when she got out of bed in the night. lolol

[anneasquith]

rat, had no intention of telling all about your "problem ". and lets be honest you wouldnt get up to the top bunk......................... now sleep apnoea/. sorry ummm for using your Q.

[Ankou]

i get very hot in the night and jiffle a lot, can't help it but it drives mrs kou up the wall.

we did contemplate sleeping in seperate rooms, but mrs kou would only agree to it if i put some sort of heating system in the shed for her.

[tamirra]

Ive been married for 25 years and we have slept in seperate rooms for nearly a year now as im such a light sleeper he keeps me awake with his snoring grunting and groaning, he dosnt like it but he also dosnt like being punched and kicked in the night either, so best all round really. xx