How to do this with honour or not at all?

[bowannabow]

Last weekend I feel for someone big time. I really felt like we connected and I fancy this guy like mad. Having met him some time ago and fancied him from afar, I was pleased to find we clicked when we chatted.  And he appeared to like me too.

The problem is he is mates with someone I work with, who I like as as mate though I strongly suspect (infact he's told me) he wants more from the relationship. Its therefore unlikely he's going to want to set me up with his mate! And probably unfair of me to ask him to?  Its unlikely i'll see the guy I like again in the near future unless i say something though.

Any ideas on how I can do this, if indeed I should atall, without coming across as insensitive to my colleagues feelings?

[georgit79]

Yes, it's unfair of you to ask this work friend to set you up, if you suspect he has feelings for you that go past that of 'just friends'. Therefore, you're going to have to do it all by yourself! Do you have this guy's number? If not, why didn't you ask for it?! If you do, then you know what to do....

If you don't have his number, you could ask your workmate for it. I don't see anything wrong with that.

[Cristo]

All is fair in love.  Just ask him for his mates number ! I have been in his position before so dont flaunt it, also your colleague will know exactly where he stands in the relationship, and, hopefully, get over it.  DO IT