BF Trouble 2

[JAC25]

Following my post a little while back (my bf was doubting whether he wanted to be with me) things really improved. I gave him the space he wanted and he rung and text me on a regular basis asking if I was ok and what I was upto. Things were on the up and he said that he had been stupid and did want to be with me and have a future with me. A few nights ago I saw a naughty picture on his phone that he had sent his ex whilst he was going through the stage when he was doubting things with us. He apologised over and over agian and said that he had released how much he wanted me and no one else and that he was going through a tough patch when it was sent (family problems etc).

He texted her straight away saying that they shouldn't talk, only if it had anything to do with their son, and that he was wrong to send her the picture. He said he did not know why he had done it and would never get back with her after what she put him through in the past.

He is now talking about taking things further with us and getting a house because he feels uncomfortable because we live with my parents. I do love him and want to be stronger and tell him to leave but I don't want anyone else and generally believe that he does want to be with me now that he has released. He i taking me out this weekend to say sorry and is doing little things that he knows will make me happy, like making more effort with my family. My only problem now is trusting him. I have always had problems with trust but now I'm going to be completly paranoid that he is still talking to her. I know the majority of answers will say to get rid but its so difficult when your so in love with someone.

What shall I say to him/do to make this work and for us to be happy again?

[ummmm]

And the moral of the story....don't nose through peoples phones..!!!

[bednobs]

hmmmm.
It was only last week that he didn't want to be with you anymore, and now wants to get a house with you. My advice? Give it some more time before making any decisions

[JAC25]

I couldn't agree more but I still shouldn't have found anything like that!

[ummmm]

But if you didn't go through his phone you wouldn't be feeling like this now.

[JAC25]

I know I know but isn't it better to know if a bloke has gone behind your back than to not know at all.

[ummmm]

You're staying with him....so no.

[ponjee]

i dont know anything about relationships, but TRUST is an important ingredient to true love. Maybe you should talk to him about it, if you really dont want to break up with him. But i personally think, that if he really loves you, he would lie all the time. jut think about your next step carefully,
good luck... xxx

[ladyalex]

As he has a son with his ex, they will have to talk to one another forever, certainly for the foreseeable future.
I'm sure you would want him to be a good father to his son, wouldn't you ?
If you want this relationship to last, you are going to have to accept that he comes with an ex-partner with whom he will have to talk frequently and regularly .

[dotty.]

he sounds a right wet nelly, dump him he's indecisive devious and a liability, plus he plays mind games that you fall for so get rid