Not asked to babysit but is it ok to chum my sister?

[_sophie_]

My sister got asked to babysit for some family friends. I have nothing better to do that night and want to go to. They normally ask both of us but this time it was just her. My mum thought it was because they maybe didn't want to pay both of us, but I don't want any money, Is it still rude of me to go without asking? Just saying I am keeping her company?

[Bobbisox]

don't see a problem sophie as long as the people know they are only paying one of you, call in after they go out to keep your sister company

[Mamyalynne]

Nicer to contact them and ask if it is ok to go along.

[jno]

well... it's possible they didn't ask you because they don't want you with their kids for some reason; so no, I wouldn't go along uninvited to someone else's house. But your sister might ask them if it's okay if you go along, making clear you don't want money, just to provide company.

[_sophie_]

Hmmm but if I went along they would feel obliged to pay me..
I don't think it's that they don't want me with their kids, I have babysat for them lots of times with my sister, don't see why they would change now?! The kids were fine and we get on well. Had no problem before?

[Bobbisox]

I agree with mamy sophie it would be courteous to ask them

[cazzz1975]

ask them if it would be okay to accompany your sister, they wont expect to pay you as its your request to be there, there may be reasons that you are unaware of why they have not asked you, dont just turn up there, ask first.

[jno]

I can't read their minds so I don't know why, but they had the opportunity to invite you and didn't, so it's their call. Do ask first, or get your sister to do so.

[coccinelle]

This is just a thought, but maybe they've realised that when there are the two of you you talk more to each other than spending that time with the kids or your topics of conversation aren't what they want their children to hear... it's strange that they've now only asked just one!

[karenmac60]

How old is your sister? Maybe they previously thought she was a little young to be babysitting alone and that it made sense for both of you to be there as extra security but they now feel your sister is old enough to go it alone and asking you would be a hassle for you. I used to go along with my (older) sister to sit for my cousins regularly, but when she got a bit older my aunt would just ask her - I think she just felt better with 2 of us there until sis turned 16 or something. Just ask if it's ok to keep her company - they can only say no :)