daughter's address

[karenmac60]

My ex has been filling out some official forms on behalf of our daughter, including a passport application. But on them all he has used his own address as her address even though she lives with me. He has also put himself down as her primary carer and me as a backup emergency contact (only giving my mobile number). I pointed out to him that this might not actually be legal as they are official forms and should really have her own address, but he has said I'm just being petty and looking for an excuse to criticise him. ( Incidentally, the forms are for a school trip to Eurodisney, which he booked and paid for without me knowing anything about it which I'm not too pleased about either). Does anyone know the legalities of using an address that isn't actually your place of residence on official forms? We live in Scotland.

[society]

Perhaps he's trying to bribe her affection by giving in to her, and giving her everything she ask of him. So, she's blinded at the moment to see your side. Give her a few years, she’ll come-round and see him foe what he really is.

[karenmac60]

He has always tried to buy her off, although she never tends to ask for anything. He's very controlling though, but he does it in such a way you can be easily fooled into giving in to him. When we were together I had no friends or social life of my own cos he would fret and worry that people were trying to use me or take advantage - it took me a long time to see he just didn't like me having friends. He's the same way with her now, she has no friends at all where he lives and when she's there she spends absolutely all of her waking hours with him, which isn't good. She needs some independence and she needs friends - he just wants to be the centre of her world and by removing any kind of competition he gets his way. It'd be quite sad if it wasn't potentially damaging to my daughter.
Anyway, thanks to everyone for your advice
Karen x

[Whoever]

Can you not write to the Passport Office and tell them that the forms had been wrongly completed. I do think that regardless of whether you apply for a passport in England or Scotland to you have to declare on the forms that the information you have provided is correct.
If you have any documentation providing you with child residency/custody following the divorce, attach a photocopy of these with your letter.
Explain that as the main carer, if something happened to your child while she was away on a school trip, and you were not named as Next of Kin, they would be unable to contact you.

[Tim123]

Do not write to the passport office. If they cancel the passport, and your daughter is unable to go to EuroDisney as a result, she will never forgive you, and who could blame her? This isn't about your daughter, it's about you and her father. Be very careful to keep it that way.

[AlBags]

Your ex sounds like my ex's ex (if that makes sense)
Selfish .. and likes to believe he is in control of everyting .. except he isn't.

[karenmac60]

Yip, total control freak - I just stopped telling him anything years ago. That way he thought he was in control and I did what I wanted ;)

[AlBags]

Attagirl : )