Ahhh confused!

[JAC25]

Hello all. Bit of advice please. Some of you may have seen my posts a few months ago. I've been through a really tough time lately. My bf of 4 years kissed his ex and was debating getting back with her as they have a child together. My bf decided he wanted to stay with me and when I found out about the kiss, I decided to stand by him and try to forgive him. He cried, apologised, said that he would do anything and explained that his head was messed up.

Since then things have been great. We haven't argued once and get on so well. Despite this I still struggle quite a bit and my trust issues are sky high. He obviously still sees his ex because of his child and they have parents evenings and sports events to go to together. I am trying to understand and let him get on with it but I still get so emotional.

He tells me he loves me and even asked the other day what I would say if he asked me to marry him. I know he isn't ready for marriage yet as he has told me on a few occassions. I am scared that I am going to end up heartbroken again although he assures me that I won't.

How shall I handle this? Has anyone else been through this? I'm so happy that we are getting on so well but I still can't fully relax.

Thanks guys

[woofgang]

Sounds like its make your mind up time....nor sure why you own the trust issues when it was him who started fooling with his ex. I would say that he has believability issues.

[ummmm]

You have to make a decision and stick to it. You've either forgiven him or you haven't. Sticking by him is not the same as forgiving him.