counselling

[nextqueen]

do you think counselling can help or hinder? ive been going for a while now but it just seems to have made me worse recently. i am dwelling on things now on a daily basis and it is just making it so raw and the talking about it is reminding me of bad times all the time, im associating so many things in my daily life now with my past. do you think i should stop going?

[ummmm]

Maybe thats the point. You're thinking about things deeper now and might need to do that so you can deal with the issues and move on.

[237SJ]

I`ve never had counselling but I would think if you have friends that are intelligent, good listeners you may get the same result (and it`s free)

[ummmm]

Sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger though. You'd end up feeling like a burden to your friends...

[jaydah]

If you can 'live in the now' and erase the past to move on. Easy to do when you re-site yourself among those who wysiwyg - eg answerbank. We dont know your past & respond to you amicably initially.

[LoftyLottie]

It depends on the counsellor. Some people relate to one counsellor better than another. If you find one that suits you stick with them. I saw a counsellor once and she just got on my nerves so much all I could think of was that I wanted to punch her in the face. She virtually said nothing at all and just sat there staring at me whilst I came out with a load of gabble just to east the silence. At what I said was far from the truth too!! Not all counsellors are good and I think you have to feel at ease with someone who is counselling you.

[LoftyLottie]

ease the silence.

[LoftyLottie]

It would have helped if she had at least tried to lead me into a topic headwreck. She literally just sat that and said nothing after the initial introduction. It may have been a technique that worked for some - but it didn't work on me. I just thought she was rude!!

[suzy123]

You have not said how long u have been going to see your counsellor - have u brought this up with him/her. If not then do it next time - the process of counselling is two way and it is perfectly ok and important that you express your concerns with him/her.
I always try to prepare my clients for the changes they may experience between sessions and offer ideas they may use to manage the emotions which they may be experiencing. i.e. keep a journal - writing is a powerful way to offload feelings and is a way to keep them in check.
hope this is helpful to you

[sandyRoe]

You've already had some good advice here. I'd like to add that I think counselling works. The stuff that you're think about now was buried and causing you pain. Talking about it in a safe environment will eventually free you of it.

[nextqueen]

i get on really well with my counsellor, thank you for all your feedback. we have chatted whether it is making things more heightened which it has but only due to very recent events which have contributed to the issues in hand. i was doing well until this, now it seems i have reached a sticking point, cant move forward because of circumstances and its making me go back to trauma in my past and heightening my awareness.

[dinkydoo]

I have also been to counselling which I found fine at first then we just seemed to be going round and round in circles and not getting anywhere, so I just didnt go back. Hope it works out ok for you.