Soul mates

[mollykins]

can you be soul mates with someone if you don't love them/ they don't love you? And would it not work if only one loved the other?

[Sqad]

Boxy agreed

<<<<I think (and indeed I know) that you can have close supportive friendships with people of the opposite sex without any romantic involvement.<<<

Thats because he´didnt fancy you OR you didnt fancy him.....it´s not rocket science.

[ummmm]

Sometimes Sqad (as in my other post) you move past that.

We're still really close....he doesn't fancy me. I don't fancy him (never have actually)

[mollykins]

But I don't even care that he doesn't love me and a proper relationship wouldn't work properly anyway and I think it would be better staying as friends then there won't be any chance of heartbreak.

[boxtops]

Possibly sqad - we liked each other's company a great deal, had lots of common ground but completely different ways of getting there, we spent time together although we lived far apart - and all those years on, we can still make each other laugh. Both in firmly committed other relationships, too!

[Prudie]

Would you still be his friend and not suffer heartbreak if he fancied/went out with another girl?

[ummmm]

Prudie - you're on to something there.

[DEN53]

Molly - you can't be just friends with someone you fancy.

[brenda]

I think you can have a person solely as a soul mate--- I have one, a guy , we met as ragged arsed bairns, went on different career paths , kept in touch , see each other perhaps 2/3 times a year.Have hugged together . cried together and laughed a lot over 30 odd years.Do I fancy him -- no , vice versa definitely no. He has been married for a lifetime , I have done that and got the Tee shirt, But we share ideals , hopes and crises, I would lay down my life for this person, and him the same .So yes it is possible.

[mollykins]

Thinking about it now, did i actually fancy him? Maybe I was confused about my emotions cos I'd never met anyone like him before I never imagined doing 'anything' with him, I just had so much in common and liked him soo much that I wanted to be with him . . .