I need to let off steam...

[curvybird]

Just had a row with Mr.Curvy, top and bottom is, he had a magical childhood and dunt know how lucky he is, whilst I had a nightmare one, having to watch my mum being beaten daily by my drunken father. He even dragged us off the toilet if he wanted to go, and lots of things I don't want to think about. I try and not let it affect my relationship, but Mr. C is the biggest mardy I have ever known, if things don't go his way,even the tiniest things he slams doors and throws things etc, which frightens me. Am I letting my childhood spoil things, and am I giving him a hard time ??

[KikiTiger]

If he behaves like that now, what will he be like in the future. Either tell him to grow up and behave like an adult or ship off.

[JonnyBoy12]

I was going to make a joke about your childhood, but that would be classed as toilet humour! Sorry to make light of this, but nobody should interrupt you in the smallest room. Do not have the answer to your question; hope others can be more helpful.

[DaisyNonna]

Mardy. That's ablast from the past. Which part of the country?
Seriously, you are not giving him a hard time. He is giving you one. You should NEVER be in a relationship where you are frightened. His childhood has not been outgrown. Counselling might be an option but I doubt that he is mature enough to accept any suggestions.

[welshlibranr]

His behaviour is that of a spoilt brat!.........you do not need it, tell him that he has two options, one - grow up! 2 - Leave!.............simple!..........he will only get worse if allowed to get away with it!............he's too used to getting his own way!....

[combatmummy]

Now you've had the weekend to let off steam, you're probably feeling a bit better. Whatever happens between you and your fella, it's clear your childhood is affecting your self esteem, you should get some counselling just for yourself. Treat yourself the way you way you would treat your best friend.

[jno]

just to expand on other answers... Childhood is a big part of our make-up, but we're not confined by it. All of us have to make our own choices about how we behave. You seem to have emerged from a bad childhood sensible and level-headed. Your husband has emerged... well, it doesn't sound as though he has emerged, he's still behaving like a child.

I wouldn't personally advocate dumping him; marriages are worth working on. The most you can do, I think, is make it clear you find his behaviour unacceptable. Counselling might well help him - if he wants to be helped. If he doesn't, then you'll have to decide whether you want to spend your life with a 'kidult'.

One other thing I would say is that if you don't have any children, you should stay that way in the meantime. Kids who refuse to grow up can get very jealoous and confused when real babies come along and need their mothers' attention full-time.