feeling guilty for cremating my cat

[SizzleSquid]

i had a cat for 13 yrs, i loved him like my baby, he died day before yesterday, of fluid on lungs. I cant afford to bury him in pet cemetary but can cremate him, however i feel its wrong, feel guilty about having to cremate him and not bury him. Cant bury him in my garden its council. Feel Sugar, lonely, and fed up. Cant go out with friends to get my mind off it as they all have kids and cant afford to. Any ideas to cheer myself up? Had enough.

[wolf63]

sizzle - it really is horrible to lose a furrybairn, but thankfully most people these days understand that it wasn't just a cat (or dog) but a person that you cared for deeply and who just happened to be really small and furry.

The Simon's cat clips are good - the one where he tries to wake the guy up was the first and, in my opinion, the best.

This is a link to a site that will make you laugh or cry - it's addictive, pulling yourself away from it might be hard.

http://icanhascheezburger.com/

My pal's dog has been dead for years - maybe 10+ years - and she still has his ashes in an urn in her living-room. I think that it is a nice idea.

[dotty.]

thing is, if the pet crem is like it is here it;s £110. for an indiviual cremation and that isn't always manageable

[wheaten]

We had Dylan Wheaten cremated a year ago, he was very ill when he was 3 but made it to 15! It was a private one so he wasn't 'mixed' with others (I know, that sounds awful, to be 'mixed') but he is still in the house in a lovely box with his name on it. We did think of scattering him on his favourite walk but we moved house at the same time so he came with us. OH still talks to him, asking him opinions and things. Other pets have been buried in other gardens and I would hate for them to be 'dug up' by someone else). If you do cremate him you can keep him with you until you decide it is time to let go. Also give another cat a home and show it as much love as you can, my two street moggies live the life of Riley now!
Wheaten

[slinkycat]

Really Dot? Had no idea it was so expensive, dread to think how much it is to have your pet buried in a pet cemetary.
Hope the simons cat clips cheer you up sizzle.

[josaphine32]

I live in a council house and have 3 cats buried in my garden, I did have one of my dog cremated last year at £240.00 but i cant relate to him beeing in a little box, stupid I know but I do prefer to go out to the garden and know that they are there. just because you have a council house does not mean you cant bury your pets, When my sister moved house they exhumed theres and took them with them.

[brenda]

Sizzle -- so sorry that you have lost your pet----it will get better with time honestly.Take care , sincere regards Brenda.

[boxtops]

Sizzle - so sorry for your loss, I share what you are feeling at the moment. Our little cat Fizzy was run over a few years back - we had her cremated and they gave use back a nice little chest with her ashes which we kept for a while, then when the time was right, we buried the ashes (not the box) in the garden where she used to sit. That felt right - I was worried about burying her as we only have a little garden and there were a lot of foxes about at that time. I would go for cremation, I really would - I would do it when the time comes for my current furry mob - then at least you have a bit of reflection time about what you do with his ashes. I'm sure the council wouldn't object to a little interment of ashes, and we planted some ferns over the top to mark the place. Whatever you decide - we're thinking of you ♥

[society]

If you cremate, you'd have the choice of taking him wherever you go, i.e. the ashes.

[mrs.chappie]

So very sorry for your loss, Sizzle. You have lost one of the family when you lose your beloved pet.

They say that time is a great healer. I don't believe that you are ever completely "healed" ... but time will help to bear the grief, although it won't feel that way for you just now.

Can I ask why you feel guilty about having to cremate him, rather than bury him?

Do you have a partner to share your loss with?

[Eastender]

Sorry for your loss, we lost our cat Cleo who was 18yrs last year. 3 cats over the years and they have all been cremated. When the time was right, we buried the ashes where they used to sit the most in the garden. Heartbreaking I know, as they become part of the family and people who dont own pets, dont really understand. We had Cleo from 6weeks old, when I go out the garden I can still her sitting there. I think cremation would be best, after all thats only a shell of the beloved cat. You still have the memoirs of the love and happiness that they gave. Its still very raw at this moment, your heart will tell you what to do.x

[SizzleSquid]

id like to say many heartfelt thanks to all the wonderfull people on here whove left such nice messages of support, and for the very funny cartoons which made me laugh out loud when i was just about to start crying
I miss him every day, based on your comments i will decide to cremate him, as youve all made me feel better about it
its still too raw for me to even look at chicken (his fave food) or go in my garden just yet (his favourite place) but hopefully time wull make things better for me
your all so lovely-many thanks xxx

[Whoever]

Cremating him is a much cleaner option. This way his body will not slowly rot away and decompose. . You can always inter or sprinkle his ashes in some peaceful spot later. Burying is always a dodgy option anyway because dead animals always create a smell, even from under the soil and local foxes will often come and dig them up.

[jd_1984]

Christ, we have got 2 cats, 4 goldfish, a rat and a hamster buried in our garden!
I suppose we wanted to give them a send off as they were all, in their own way, very pleasant animals and part of the family, but never even considered future owners of the house!

[mrs.chappie]

Oh dear, in our old house we left a garden absolutely full of deceased pets (we used to rescue them and so, over the years, we had a heck of a lot die with us).

Never thought about the new owners of the house (to be honest, didn't think we'd move from there). Cripes!!!!! :o(