Long distance relationship

[stevo221]

im 21 and i've been with my girlfriend for 2 years now but shes moving 500miles away to university and ill only see her about every 3 months then shes home for summer but she has 4 years over there, im really worried about it and dont know what to do or what is the best way to make a long distance relationship work?

[mxyzptlk]

It could depend on the strength of your relationship. Having received a few "dear John" while away serving in the forces, I would suggest lots of phone calls and letters and look forward to the time you can spend together. Maybe occasional long weekends to go see her. But as you're both young be prepared for disappointment if she gets into a new crowd (see first sentence) and good luck to you both

[boxtops]

Yes, I'd agree. University life can be very exciting, lots of groups, lots of new people. This sounds hard, but can I suggest too that you make yourself an interesting life during the time she's away? She'll come home full of her new experiences, you need some to share with her too. If you stay home and fret about what she's doing away, it can be destructive for both of you. You start a new hobby, make some new friends, join a group, you'll both have something new to talk about when you do meet up.

[JonnyBoy12]

500 miles away? What university is that then? It seems a long way to go for a university. You know what they say "Absence makes the heart grow fonder".

[rowanwitch]

Have you already done uni? only if not one of the biggest problems in relationships can be an intellectual gap.....I would suggest you keep busy...and remember it's just as likely you will stray as your girlfriend.... so be realistic about your expectations of one another

[stevo221]

shes basically across the country, she plays volleyball and has lots of classes so i mean shes always busy and we do have a strong relationship but i know its gonna be really hard

[Old_Geezer]

You can only wait and see how things pan out. Staying in touch regularly will help. Perhaps plan things for the holidays.

[redman41]

At the age of 21 stevo221, you are just starting on the long and hazardous road of life.
Maybe the strength of your relationship with your Girlfriend will survive being parted for considerable lengths of time, but you are young enough to move on with your life if it doesn't. Life is a Roller Coaster ride, some you win and some you don't.

[danchip]

When i was your age my gf moved 300 miles away and we made every effort to see each other as much as we could, i would go down there for weekends and she would come up home, if she had a fre day during the week i'd go down and suprise her!

You say your only going to see her every 3 months when she comes home, if you love her and have a strong relationship then surely you'll do everything you can to see her more often if not then i'm afraid she'll meet new people, you'll meet new people and you'll grow apart!

On the other hand your still young, do you really want to be tied down to someone who your only going to see 4 times a year!

[DavideMexia]

ey my navrotsky, be prepared to be cheated. dont be naive ... love is about a good fack, open your eyes man

[david51058]

Mmmm well I would prepare yourself for disappointment. Knowing what students are like, drink, partying. It's going to take a strong relationship to survive it. Sorry but don't hang around waiting for her. Good luck anyway.

[stevo221]

i mean i am the partier and she is the more school type, shes taking architect and engineering but i am the type that worries alot

[stevo221]

and im with the forces so what your telling me all my moving around and going who knows where is that my whole life i should be single

[boxtops]

No, certainly not stevo, we're an Army family and it works well - but you do spend long periods away from your family and friends as you know, when you enlist. Are you in the US?

[stevo221]

yes im listed in the us, we have done a kinda long distance before but it was only 4 hours away and we saw eachother a couple times a month and that was even really hard

[stevo221]

shes been gone since november and its been fine i just worry all the time if she just grows away from me