Can a 7 year old girl share a bedroom with a biological father

[Jo1981jo]

Is it allowed for my 7 year old daughter to be sleeping in same room as her biological father who has only just decided he wants contact and only spent a total of 17hrs with her since June. This is what he is requesting in court next overnight visits which I'm not happy about as he has spent so little time with her infact it's been supervised contact in a contact centre 2hrs every 2weeks. And most of those he didn't turn up for

[murraymints]

The authoritites usually insist that the child has it's own bed..not necessarily bed room though...

[clipclop1]

Redhelen is right, they will take it all into consideration and bear in mind that after recent sad events within the field of childcare they are being much harder on people who could possibly pose an emotional threat to young, vulnerable children. Why is he suddenly het up on night time stop over's when he has proved unreliable for daytime visits?
I can totally understand your feelings, plus you dont want her getting hurt or having to fathom why her dad can't be bothered to turn up to see her at times.
Keep us posted, I hope you get the result you are looking for!

[Auntie-Mimi]

he is practically a stranger to her, make sure your lawyer points this out. Are cafcass involved at this point?

[joko]

has he no other rooms? perhaps while she is there he could sleep on the couch?

or can you insist that he turn a box room, if there is one, into a room for her ..(in case he just cant be bothered)

or even could they stay at his parents house for the night?

[jedimistress]

You should say that he needs ot build up his relationship with her first which you will fully support. (Even if thats balls) Don't let him hold you to ransom with overnight stays.

I was in the same sitiation but he gave me an ultimatum, overnight stays or he will consider himself marginalised. I went down the marginalised route. If he was that interested in fostering a relationship with his daughter that was not the way to go about it, and should show patience and move at the daughters pace.

I doubt the judge will award overnight stays unless he hs a better attendance record at contact and if there are no complicating issues.

[Jo1981jo]

Thank you for your words. Cafcas are involved and I'm gonna request they check his home. What's worse is that he lives 80miles away. His parents drink too much as in they start at 10am on the vodka!! My daughter doesn't want to stay. Court is in June i think

[momcj]

I am going through a very similar thing. dad had supervised contact at contact centre and since january has unsupervised every fortnight, just for the day. do not panic they will not agree to suddenly go from supervised to overnight stay. You say and they will agree that it has to be at the childs pace. it is gradual process. even if he is 80 miles away he will have to travel to you and maybe take her out for the day near you! Even though my daughter and her dad have had unsupervised since Jan there have been times she does not want to go, i have court hearing next week and she is no where near ready to stop with him overnight, so it will have to continue as is for now. My daughter is 6 and half. Hope helps. Honestly dont worry, i do know its hard though it isnt nice going to court x

[its_me_baby]

i dnt think having her own bedroom would be taken in to consideration but other stuff will be when deciding on his contact. I have a male mate who has his daughter 2 nights a week and has to share a bedroom with her, shes 8 and as he doesnt have her more than 3 nights a week the council wont rehouse him so he doesnt have any other option but to have 2 beds in his bedroom.