Partners Kids visiting

[numnum]

My partner has 2 children from a previous relationship who are older, 12 and 13. We have 2 children 1 and 2 years old

They live far away from us and we only see them once or twice a year when we get them up through school holidays for a few weeks.

The last time they were up my partner took 2 weeks off work to spend with them for the first 2 weeks they were here then was back at work the last week. The first week we had them for 2 nights. His sister and mum kept phoning for them which is understandable as they miss them too

What annoyed me was when my boyfriend went back to work none of them wanted them and they were left with me for that week with no car to go anywhere.

Its now coming to that time where family are wondering if there coming up. I got that annoyed the last time because I was cooking, washing clothes, cleaning for his kids that were never here or I'd cook a meal and find out his sister had fed them

I told my partner the last time we just need to be organised so we have a rough idea whats happening and he doesn't waste 2 weeks holiday for them to be staying elsewhere.

He thinks I'm being evil and said i'm just being akward and now wanting him to see his other kids. Which is not the case. I just dont see why we have to pay a fortune getting them here, buy in food and them not to be here. I would just like to know whats going on but its not my place to be telling his mum and sister when they can and cant see them but its me that does all the cooking cleaning etc so I think i have some sort of say

What do you think?

[sara3]

I think only seeing the kids once or twice a year is shocking, assuming they're all in the UK.

anyway, you're entitled to have a better plan than the last time, and he needs to be the one to find out what's happening.

[numnum]

i know, but their mum keeps moving further and further away. in the 4 years i've gone out with him they've moved 4 or 5 times and changed school about 4 times

we've offered to take them so the mother can travel if she wants. they had them really young so i wonder if this is what all the moving is about. she's never done what normal teenagers do and now she's travelling and they have to go where she goes

i'd love them to stay with us full time

[numnum]

there not in the uk. the cost for us 4 to go and see them is far to much.

his ex also has a child to another man a couple of hours away from where we live so if we want to get his kids here for their holiday we have to fit it round her ex taking the other child.

which trying to fit all that in and both mens work holidays its very tricky. also any flight will only give an escort for 3 minors alone on the plane so we also have to work their visit around the flights having enough room for all 3 children. all 3 kids have to fly themselves as there mum wont come with them.

my partner has travelled down to get his kids and ended up being in charge of the other mans kid which he wasn't happy with so i don't think he'd want to be left with that responsiblity of another mans child again so thats why they have to travel themselves

[pink-kittens]

do they live somewhere you would consider holidaying? Is it a hot country?

[weas]

those childern will be effected by everyones behavior, dont let them grow up and blame you!! you be the good guy!! sadly thats what happens when you chose to marry someone who has a previous family.