Husband and son not talking

[evedawn]

My husband is not talking to his son (my 21 yr old stepson) over a fairly triviaL thing l (in my mind) thing. I can see BOTH sides of the story but it's tearing me up inside :-( he won't even answer his calls. I'd like to make the first move and simply tel my stepson why his dad is angry but my husband won't allow me to get involved. How can I fix them?

[woofgang]

Short answer you can't. My strong advice would be to stay out of it and let the thing subside a bit

[Purple_Popple]

It's a man thing Eve, Woof is right - you should take a step back as difficult as it is to do, and let them sort it out, it will in due course, must be an awful atmosphere and i do feel for you. Let us know how it all goes.

[NOX]

I slightly disagree, as this is something which affects you. I suggest you tell your husband that he either sorts it out himself or you sort it out for him because it's having a negative affect on your quality of life as you hate the atmosphere.No-one should have to live with and put up with other people's dramatics as it only encourages them to behave that way and they eventually end up thinking they can get away with it any time they please.

[painterman32]

It is probably best you keep out of it, BUT, there is no reason why you can't voice your displeasure, that you can see both sides and want a quick resolve to the problem, because you're finding it very upsetting - and if for no other reason they sort out their differences pronto.

[Purple_Popple]

Men do, women speak....men need to retreat to their cave in times of stress for deep thinking and really dont like us ladies meddling in no matter what good we think we are doing...its all very primitive...men dont see things the way a woman does.

[albaqwerty]

my 17 year old son and I aren't talking. He talks to his dad and his older brother.

Eve, you can't fix them no matter how much you want to. It hurts and they can't see it xx

[evedawn]

Thank you all of u for your answers. I rang my own mum today (as my hub often listens to her more than me lol....Her n my hub are very close) but she also recommends staying out of it :-( albeqwerty ... I hope things with ur 17 yr old improve :-(

[scotman]

I assume son does not live with you. If you choose to intervene do so very carefully. Can you speak to each of them separately and privately and ask what you can do to resolve the situation?

[DaisyNonna]

Your husband won't allow you? You are a person. Have you forgotten?

[welshlibranr]

they are probably very alike, and so find it hard to agree!........it's a man thing, stay out of it!...............