is it wrong?????

[roxybella]

is it wrong that my boss told me she never even took me into consideration for more responsablity at work cause she knows i'm single mum looking after my son on my own ?

[Jan1957]

To me that would depend on whether you have had to take much time off before because of your son. If the answer is no then yes, I agree she is wrong. She should have asked you if you were given extra responsibilities would you have been able to arrange alternative child care in case of emergencies and at least given you a chance to answer.

[RATTER15]

Technically yes, legally yes (probably) but what if your son was sick, would you need to stay off work to look after him, if this is the case I too may e wary of how and the type of work I put in your direction. Business is business.

[roxybella]

well i've worked there for 4 years and maybe taken 2 days off in that time due to my son she knows i have plenty of people to look after my son,yet there was no discussion and she gave it to someone who she is very friendly with but doesn't no as many aspects of the job as me. just feeling that this isn't very fair

[RATTER15]

Talk to ACAS, probably a bit of discrimination going on maybe. I don't think you will get very far in all honesty though.

[Jan1957]

In that case I too would be upset and tell her that is discrimination. Is it her business or is there any one you could complain to about this because I know I would if I were in your position?

[woofgang]

Single question. How much do you like your job and how much do you want to keep it?

[roxybella]

to be honest i'm not going to do anything about it i'm not that sort of person to kick up a fuss i'm just a bit angery about it at the minute as when i'm there i seem to do more work than anyone else, but yeh maybe it's time for a change anyway

[bimbo123456]

Just a small point. Have you thought of taking spelling lessons?..responsability should be responsibility , no instead of know, angery rather than angry.....If you want to up your game in the future this may help. Kindly meant, not criticising at all.

[joko]

"no instead of know, angery rather than angry..."? err...really?

funny how mistakes and typos can happen no matter how careful you think you have been...isn't it?

[chelle7272]

Yes that is wrong , it is discrimination. I fyou had applied for a job she would not have known and would not have been able to judge you on your circumstances. Your private life is your private life unless it directly affects your work.

[Canary42]

It's not wrong that she's told you, but since she has spilled the beans you have a good case for discrimination.

[murraymints]

ABSOLUTELY WRONG.....however once she relises it will be difficut to present a case.as she will deny////

[sue11]

Roxybella, it is definately wrong, it is discrimination and you would have a case to take it to tribunal if you so desired. By discussing it with you, I expect your boss does not realise she is discriminating (unless she is so awful she says what she pleases and does not care), but ignorance is no excuse. You have said that you have no wish to take it further, but dependant on your circumstances, how you feel about your boss and your job, how easy it will be to find another etc, it may be a good idea to put something in writing to her, explaining that her comments concerned you and asking for a more formal explanation of what she said to you. This will provide you with written evidence. Even if she does not respond, you will have your letter/email to her to use as proof of the fact that she actually made these comments to you.
Hope this helps
Sue

[atalanta]

Talk to your union representative. Or, if you are not in the union, join it, and they will fight this battle for you. They will not stand by and allow bosses to discriminate against you, which is what they are doing