'your childrens 'keep' money

[slinky.kate]

does your kids give you money for there keep?
has it gone up with inflation?
stayed the same for years?
OR-do not take anything
they feed themselves etc.
some of my sons friends think i am mean cos' i take £220 a month off him for his keep,in that he gets,his meals,sandwiches every day,washing,has use of car

[Old_Geezer]

You need to pop in every 10 minutes then to see if they'd like a cup of tea, or a sandwich, or whether they are missing Corrie and wanted to be told, etc. etc. etc. Try playing your Reginald Dixon Wurlitzer CDs at high volume.

Ah maybe they'll get hitched soon, buy a place of their own and the money question goes away.

[pussnboots]

My daughter paid me £15 a week in the late eighties, she would then borrow £20, pay it back the following week, then borrow it again. There was a £20 note constantly floating around in thin air.

[Cowtipper]

My dad started charging me rent at 14. $50 a month. By the time I was sixteen it was $50 a week. I moved out of his house because for $200 a month I got my own place and my own rules.

[Slapshot]

We took money from our son when he started full time work mostly to ensure that he learned at that stage that nothing in life is free and that everything costs money. We took a third of his take home and nothing changed for him as part of the household. He was reasonably happy about it. Even when he stopped work and finally decided he was going to university he continued to pay a third of his part time job/grant income to the house, that was his choice.

What he doesn't know is that a large portion of that is sitting in a savings account in his name gathering interest so he might have some kind of deposit when he first goes to buy a house.

[slinky.kate]

i would save some of his money if i could,but i am on my own,and on DLA.so i have to watch the pennies.son is very kind hearted and would give me money if i asked for it.

[albaqwerty]

My older son is on a Bursary and gives us £30 a week, £20 goes back to him :) In various ways but he does do stuff around the house when asked, which isn't that often.

Younger son (who is working) gave us £30 a week from which I'd buy juice and packed lunch stuff. His aunt told him he shouldn't be paying dig money so he moved out and stayed with her rent free.

[ethandron]

when our eldest graduated and started full time work, we sat down with him and went through all the bills. we came to an amicable but realistic agreement with him on how much he should give us for his keep which took everything involving him into account.
when the youngest graduated we did the same. he said 'stuff that for a game of soldiers' and moved out :)
i don't think any parent wants to make a profit from their live-at-home children, but equally they have to learn the value of money and what they're getting for it while they live at home. the money to pay for electricity, gas, food, tv licence, phone, etc., doesn't grow on trees.
so no, kate, i don't think you're being mean. i think your son is learning a valuable lesson.

[slinky.kate]

thank you ethandron,i feel better now.

[Ric.ror]

This is brilliant - spoke to a woman at work she tools third made them save a third and let them keep a third
Mine give me £100 a week and get £110 back