i think im being needy. What to do?

[swinarni]

so a couple weeks ago i groped my girlfriends best mates tits (consensually ofcourse). I was well drunk. After a week and a half of not talking to me we finally made up, especially considering something like that is so out of character for me. My girlfriend forgive her friend before me. It was all brought up in a argument again when i questioned something she had said to someone and so we stopped talking again for a couple of days. My girlfriends mate is also a friend of mine and shes always been there to help us through our problems and so i spoke to her about things within the period my girlfriend wouldnt talk to me. We're all pretty open about our sex lifes so i told the mate that my girlfriend and i hadn't had sex in a couple of week and that we wernt talking again and i said something along the lines of 'you should give me a bj to cheer me up, lol, only jokin im not goin down that road again, im still sorry for what i did last time, i love her and im never doing anythin to hurt her again'. My girlfriend and i made up the next day but the day after she found out what i said and is now ruffled around the boa at me even jokin about the bj thing. Shes just txt me sayin i thing its best we dont see each other for abit untill i she decides what she really wants. A different friend of ours has spoke to her he got the impression that she wants me but needs me to not need her. I no im a needy person, if we go i day with out a cuddle i think theres something wrong. I love her with the whole of my heart and now im petrified that im loosing her. In the past if wev had problems shes always come back after a week or 2. We even split up just after xmas but she came to me a week after valentines day but shes never actually said she needs time apart to think about things and now im extremely worried. Does anyone have any advice please. Thanks

[boxtops]

It sounds to me as if you are lacking in self-confidence - not only do you admit that you are needy about your girlfriend (questioning what she says to people, etc.) but that if she is not around, you need assurance from this other girl too. Life and love is not all about sex and physical contact, it's about trusting each other and behaving in appropriate manners. If you were my bf and (however much it was a joke) you asked another girl to give you a bj, or indeed groped her breasts, you would be out on your ear - how can your gf trust you if that is the sort of conversation you have, and the way you behave - drunk or not? Your sex life is not for public discussion either, and again - it's not all about sex. You need to get a grip and show people that you can keep confidences and not make sex the most important thing in your life. If you are not having sex or any form, it doesn't mean there is anything the matter with you. You need to believe in yourself a bit more. I really do think on this one that if your gf has any sense, she will cut and run this time, I wouldn't stay around if you had done this to me.