moving can my ex stop me?

[londonlover2010]

im moving from belfast to london with my 6 year old daughter in june once i marry my knew partner can my ex stop me. we were never married but lived together for years and he takes her every weekend. please help!

[yogi-bear]

I agree with wizard, gucciman, tim and Boo's comments...........you have to think of the interest of the child here....thas all that counts.

It never ceases to amaze me how people like you, londonlover, can post things like this on here days ago, and not take ANY interest in replying, or coming on for a minute to acknowledge the good folks replys to you're initial question. Common decency and courtesy, i think.

Unbelievable, and very disappointing.

[yogi-bear]

Bednobs and whoever make valid points too btw.........please reassess the situation and act in the childs best interest, londonlover.

[B00]

Wizard- please read my reply again, i said she'd her daughters happiness to consider more.

[londonlover2010]

thank u 4 every1s comments. did i mention that her father walked out on both of us and moved 300 miles away to be with his new girlfriend and it was me that done all the travelling.i dont drive and he does i dont take money from him either for anything as i can provide for her myself. i will also be back 3 weekends a month as i have a business in belfast and need to maintain it. my ex just wont agree he allowed to get on with his life. my daughter is always my number 1 priority and will stay that way. she is very excited to move and this has been discussed with her for the last 8 months. when i asked him to collect her this weekend he told me he was to tired to travel!!!!!

[londonlover2010]

so please wizard boo and whoever else wants to put her father first think again. just got a call from him telling me they only wnt her every second weekend cus she is pregnant and cant cope with my daughter all the time. as i z i leave her down to him on a friday evening and pick her up on sunday at 5 so she not there all the time. how much of a devoted father is he now! and i do apologise for not being online for 3 days but i work as often as i can while she is with her father so i can spend quality time with her

[yogi-bear]

Hi londonlover,

It does sound from your post that there is always two sides to a story, and it must be hard to have to do what you have been through for you're daughter.

It's good to hear when you say that she is you're no 1 priority and always will be.......that's really nice to hear, as you seem to be a caring mum who only wants best for all concerned, i think.

I'm sorry to you, for saying that you were absent from here, as you explained exactly why, my lovely,...... sometimes some people dont bother at all to come back to re-post after putting out a thread.

I do wish you all the very best for the future and in what you decide to do in the interests of you and you're daughter, please take care and keep us informed as how you both are.

Kind Regards

yogi x

[yogi-bear]

Oh....and many congratulations on you're pending marriage to you're new partner in June........wishing you every happiness for the future. :0) xx

[londonlover2010]

thanks yogibear i really appreciate it. i deliberiately put the story out that way to see what the reactions would be if he went to court before anybody heres my side of the story. and i hate making him sound bad but thats the way he gets on i did used to love him once and would never set out to intentionally hurt him.I just want whats best for me my daughter my fiance and his daughter thanks again and will keep all posted

[B00]

Why the attitude londonlover?

You failed to give us the full story, how do you expect us to offer you sound advice without all the facts?

[ummmm]

Haven't read all the answers.

I didn't say it was right. I just understand her position. She's in love....

[londonlover2010]

sorrrryyy didnt mean to sound like i have an attitude. i am grateful for everyones responses. he just thinks he has done nothing wrong and thats the way his side of the story comes across so i wanted to see how people would react if it was his side of the story and now i can see we he has turned people against me

[daisy-]

everyone is a little harsh my ex has moved on trying to have a baby with his gf and he is making my life hell so everyone has the right to move on, i am moving as well fresh start with myself and kids only advice is to speak to a lawyer but its against the human rights act for him to stop you moving as long as you have a plan and offer in how your ex can still see his child then there should not be problem. hope it works out

[daisy-]

hey a lot of people are being a bit harsh, my advice is see a lawyer am going thru same thing , my ex has put me thru hell last couple of years and he is now engaged and trying to start new family with his new family everyone has right to move on thats what am choosing to do as long as you have thought it over like i have done and got a plan in how your ex will have contact then he cant stop you look up article 13 declaration of human rights act well it think its that, because you were married am not 1oo% cause scottish law is different than english law and i was not married to my ex however, you have the right to move as a person to move check it out with lawyer am just going by my experience hope this can help a little. remember all you guys that are calling her selfish she has the right to move on as everyone else a happy mum makes a happy child. x

[daisy-]

hey i just read your comments about your ex leaving you and you do all the travelling your not alone am moving to a wee scottish island which is a great place to bring up my 2 kids i stayed there when i was a child and am getting letters of my ex saying he wants me to put my 4 year old daughter on a plane and pay for the £150 return flight its crazy he also does not pay child support has not done in 3 years since we split he also had a affair and left me i could go on all i am saying is your not alone and get the help and fight it cause if he wants to be a dad he will make the effort as you will do as well it is a two way thing here child comes first.

[londonlover2010]

hey guys its london lover. well i married and moved to london. everything worked out great. my daughter is so happy and her father never even turned up in court as he was too ill with a hangover!!! i won obviously and he has contacted her twice since we have moved. i have brought her home six times and it was only convienient for him to see her once. such a devoted father he turned out to be after making my life hell for 10 months then decides he cant be bothered. thanks once again for everyones comments and i apologise for not replyin sooner.

[englandlover1996]

No, he can't stop u. Aslong as ur still in britain...there's nothing he can do. Aslong as u don't try and stop the father seeing her all together. I'm doin this rite now, so I know how u feel londonlover. He mayb able to get an order to stop u temporarily until court comes up, bt that's it......he has no right in the eyes of the law to tell u where u can and can not live. Take ur daughter and go would b my advice. The only way he"ll get the child full time is if he applies for full custody.....and even then he needs hard evidence to prove he can provide for her better and u r not suitable as a mother.end of.

[englandlover1996]

No,he can't stop u. He has no right in the eyes of the law to tell u wher u can and cannot live aslong as ur still within the uk. He can get an order to stop u leaving temporarily until court comes around bt that's it, once its settled in court.....there's nothing he can do. And if he wants the child full time he'll have to apply for full custody of her and have hard evidence that u r not suitable as a mother. I know how u feel.....am doing this myself right now. My advice-take ur child and go. Aslong as u don't stop him from seeing her at all. That's about the only rite he has....is to see her at holidays etc. And he will just have to b content with that.