new partner who smokes

[kerriesmum]

I have been seeing my partner for about 8 months. He is lovely, but his smoking drives me mad.
He does it outside, but he wheezes and coughs and it disturbs my sleeping he snores as well, at times.
I do love him but i am worried about his health, as my husband died of a lung related illness 3 years ago.
He has spent a fortune on quit aids, gave up once for two weeks then started again. I dont want to sound like a nag but i am at my witts end.
what would you do in mu situation?

[redcrx]

has he seen his GP? or just bought over the counter stuff?

[kerriesmum]

Its true they are so expensive now.

[Slapshot]

remove all rights (of the conjugal variety) until he makes an effort to stop.

I have to say it's the MOST UNATTRACTIVE thing on this planet seeing a beautiful woman with a fag in her hand!!

[cazzz1975]

smoking is very much a personal thing, only when he is ready he will give up, he may feel under pressure to give up by society, people around him, no smoking signs everywhere ect ect hence the failed attempts, but ultimately when he is ready to give up properly he will.

lay off the nagging, it wont help. just ignore his smoking, dont make it an issue, he will give up when he wants to

[ChuckFickens]

You could smoke roll ups, B00

Cheaper and oh so classy :)

[B00]

The thing that helped me was the local no smoking clinic, has he (voluntarily!) tried that? Apart from the support you get the gum/patches/whatever on prescription from them too.

[kerriesmum]

just over the counter remidies he wont go to the g.p as he says he doesnt do group quit smoking sessions.

[B00]

i did Chuck, but still too darned tootin' expensive, well, more expense than what i was prepared to spend, I am a tight northerner after all ;-)

[redcrx]

they do have cessation drugs, he doesnt have to go to group meetings

[kerriesmum]

i think i just need to take a step back then thankyou everyone.

[B00]

good luck kerriesmum, whatever you decide ;-)

[anneasquith]

i think you have every right to be concerned, but as above answers, only he can take the steps to stop,,, good luck.

[Answerprancer]

...yeah, let's face it - you could get hit by a car tomorrow. Listen to your doctor: "stay in the pink with ciggies and drink" !

[whiskeryron]

// you wouldn't believe how quickly my stumpy legs would take me to the nearest shop that sells them! // Lucky to have 'stumpy legs'. It was fright that stopped me smoking, I began to have difficulty walking & was diagnosed as having a blocked Femoral Artery. I was informed that it was caused through smoking & I had to have a wire pushed down the Artery in order to clear it ( with local anesthetic) I had a lot of blood leak under the skin tissues & was black from the waist to just above the knees ( not a pleasant experience at all) I was told that if I continued to smoke it could result in me losing my legs which would have to be amputated.I stopped smoking there & then ( December 1992) & have not smoked since.Do not risk what I went through, give it up NOW. Ron.

[Ellipsis]

whiskeryron, I knew a guy who went through a similar experience and despite that he STILL couldn't give up smoking and had to have both legs amputated at the knee before, eventually, dying of lung cancer.

My Mum knew him too, and even then she still couldn't give up - until she went to the hypnotist. That worked a treat ...