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Jan, Whilst reading some of the stuff from the past week, I noticed your post advising of the loss of your husband. Can I please add my condolences to all the others posted at the time. I know what you must be going through and it will not be easy - I had fantastic support from ABers and work colleagues and that helped me tremendously. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Julian xx
Julian xx
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Thank you Julian. I know you recently lost your Sylvia so know exactly how I am feeling. This weekend has been very difficult as I have been trying to sort out the funeral service ready for a visit from the vicar this afternoon. Don't know if you felt the same but at the moment I am still struggling to take it in. I keep thinking it's not real and expecting to wake up and find out it's all been a dream! Then it hits me that he won't be coming back. Still very hard, and although friends have been helping when they can I feel very alone at the moment. xx
Jan, I didn't have a reading at Sylvia's funeral. Instead we chose 2 songs 1 when she was borne into the church which was my choice - The Rose and the boys chose Angel (from the film The City of Angels) when she was borne out of the church. We were advised against a reading or eulogy as it would have made things more intense than they already were. I did struggle at first to take it all in but in my case I think I realised that after a couple of days when Sylvia was in Critical Care that she would not get her transplant and that she would not pull through. I had about 4 or 5 days to get 'used to the idea' and so when the end came I suppose I was already greiving.
I feel much better now the vicar has been and the service is all sorted out. What a nice man he was, very kind and put me totally at ease. He helped me choose a hymn and a poem and I now know that Gary's funeral is in safe hands. It's like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Thanks again Julian. xx