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Dilemma
My wife has had two miscarriages..one at 6 wks, one at 20 wks. But we have a lovely 7 year old daughter. Today, i have just found out that my cousin and his wife have lost their unborn baby....and she's due this week. We are absolutely gutted for them but not sure how to approach them. My wife couldn't accept any phone calls or callers during our bad time. But i don't want to my cousin to feel that i don't care or that he knows i'm here for him. Shall i ring them in a few days, maybe send a small "thinking of you" card....i just don't know what to do. Any suggestions |
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I think you should ring them but if nobody answers leave a message saying that you're thinking about them and that you're there to help.
Also maybe when he's feeling a bit better organise a lads night out or something?
Just a suggestion! Good luck to you all
I would defo send a card. With the baby I lost, I didn't really know what to say to anyone. I just kept crying, everytime I opened my mouth to talk, I couldn't, just cried and cried, as I'm sure you can imagine.
However, when you are in that situation, you want so much to be able to remember the baby and the baby to be real and a part of everything that you keep everything to do with the pregnancy and the baby. I have a box in which I keep the hospital tags I was wearing, some little booties and litlle hat my sis knitted when I told her is was pregnant and I photocopied my antenatal notes and kept them and Of course, I had lots of cards and I still read them occasionally now if I'm feeling a bit sad about it (and that was 10 years ago).
Therefore, I would send a card and say you are there and that this is such a sad, sad loss but you will remember their baby even though he can't be here with us.
I am thinking of you, it must be a painful time for you feeling for your cousin and also being reminded of your own pain.
With much loveXX