Shall i keep the baby?

[natnats]

I really dont no what too do. I am 9 weeks pregnant. I am 28 yrs old. 2 1/2 months ago i had a bad accident and broke 18 bones, nearly all have healed apart from my pelvis which is taking its time.

The father is a complete waste of space and doesn't want to no. He has messed me about from day one. I cant help but love him though. We only meet 3 months ago.

I dont no if i'm ready to be a single mum. I'm still at home with my parents and have no job because of the accident.

I keep changing my mind and cant stick to a final decision. It would be difffernt of the father was a decent guy and gave me some support.

I have an appointment next monday for a consultation at the abortion clinic. I really don't no what too do and dont want to regret my decision. I know, no matter what i decide it's going to be really hard. what shall i do?????

[ummmm]

We can't answer that. Only you can decide :-(

Do your parents know yet?

[craft1948]

Single
Unemployed
Broken pelvis
No-good father
..................hmmm toughie..........

[crisgal]

could you cope being a single parent?
can you cope physically with the day to day work it entails?
Is your relationship with your parents strong enough to stand the ups and downs? There will be clashes between you and your mum.

my friend's daughter came home, after moving out. She was pregnant and the dad didn't want to know.
My friend and her husband's life has totally changed now. They thought they would have some time as a couple, once their children had left - but they are back to a house full of baby stuff!
Obviously, they wouldn't have seen her out on the steets, it is a very loving family. But I can see that it has been a strain on them all. Particularly with mum and daughter. she wants to help, but knows she has to let her daughter do things her own way, and not interfere. It must be so hard.
Now, she worries that her daughter won't meet anyone new as she has a young baby.
The daughter recently went back to work and the baby goes to a childminder. So, yes, they all get a break and some of their life back - but it is a financial strain too and means that daughter can't save up or afford her own place.

I know the thought of a cute litle baby is tempting, and I'm not trying to steer you in any direction - but I have been there and worn the t.shirt so to speak, so know where you're coming from. I made a tough decision when I was 23 but it turned out to be the right one. For me.
i don't envy you at all, but try to see the bigger picture - long term. Only you can make the decision. above all talk to your mum and dad.
I wish you the very best x♥x

[bushbaby_de]

Your post makes it sound like you're already made your mind up but you want someone else to validate your decision. Only you know how this could affect you. Suggest you have some counselling before going to the clinic.

[wildwood]

The father may also want to be part of the child's life later on when he grows up. Would this create problems?

Good luck.

[wildwood]

Only just realised that you conceived two weeks after you broke the 18 bones.

Is this a windup?

[crisgal]

it had better not be - i've been thinking about this poor woman all night!

[chelle7272]

duplicate post
http://www.theanswerb.../Question1043750.html

[NoMercy]

I was dragged off to have a termination on my 17th Birthday. I still remember the day the baby was due - 9th September 1994. Although I struggled for many years following the termination, I am now glad I didn't proceed with the pregnancy. Like you, the baby's father was a scuzzbucket. You sound both physically and emotionally incapable of rearing a child at the present time. It wound be unfair to both of you. However, this is YOUR decision. Don't let anyone bully you.