What advice would you have given?

[ettelloc]

I went to see my friend earlier who asked for my advice. Just wondering what you would have said. Here goes...... Friend let's call eve is with boyfriend 'adam' have to children aged 4 & 2 and one on the way. Adams mum let's call Mary has a boyfriend 'joseph' who she had a child to 20 some tears ago and us now back in the scene and has been for about a year or so. Mary has the children with Joseph overnight every other Saturday. A couple if months ago Mary and Joseph told Adam and eve that in the 70s Joseph was done fir having some sort of relations with a minor and they should expect a call from social services. Yesterday social services called to make an appointment to see Adam and eve. Adam and eve were told Joseph also has a similar charge in 2006 bearing in mind hs would have been in his 50s at least and they also said he was HIV positive. They told eve that they would only want Joseph in contact with the children if mary was present. Now Adam and eve are left with the decision of letting Mary and Joseph see the children.
What would you do? I don't think I've missed anything. I dont know exactly what happened with the minors or how old they were or if Joseph actually got charged.

[ladybirder]

I notice it is only females that have responded to this thread. I wonder why. Is it a mother thing?

[roxie_09]

Completely agree LCG, am in the same boat, luckily not involving me, but earlier this year had to give evidence in court on behalf of a family member, happened about 30 years ago, family member in question didn't say anything at the time, but then something happened last year with great-grandchildren. They never change x