Mixed messages?

[lourules]

I met a guy i really liked through mutual friends and we hit it off - went out on dates and he took me to York for the weekend, stayed over at his quite a few times etc.. etc.. then all of a sudden it became distance with the texts. He works long hours and some days might not get home till 7pm - then we ended up argueing because i asked him to stay over at mine one night and he sacked me off for his xbox!

Anyways a week later i texted him saying i wanted to pick my stuff up from his house, dvds and bits, and his mate let me in as he was at work - i texted him saying i had been round and that it was a shame things had ended between us as i really liked him.

2 days later i get a text from him saying "im sorry i didnt reply sooner i didnt know what to say to your message xxx"

Then he started saying would i give him another chance because he missed me and would try harder etc etc... and i played it cool and said lets meet for a drink soon and chat.

That was last wednesday...ive had the odd text over the weekend saying " are u ok?x" and thats it! Ive sent him a few saying how are you and hows your weekend what you up to etc... then i said when are you free for this drink then? and no reply....

so i sent a message 3 hours after that saying "did you get my text message earlier?" and the reply "yeah sorry ive been so busy today" this was a sunday evening about 7pm

not heard a peep since!? Im confused....he sent those messages saying he wanted me to give him another chance and to meet up and see each other again because he missed me then when i ask him 3 days later (which i thought was playing it cool) i get no straight reply back? What do i do now? Wait for him to get in contact???? or what? xxx

[ummmm]

I would leave it.

When you first start seeing someone (unless work stops you) you tend to reply to messages asap. If not, then I think there's some element of game playing.

[lourules]

i agree with you i think its a game play but it leaves me thinking well what next? So shall i not text him at all?
xx

[Ankou]

nope don't text, let him do the chasing.

[ummmm]

I wouldn't text...

[vodkancoke]

If he really wants to see you to work it out, he would do everything he could to make sure that happens. He seems to be playing a game with you as Ummmm said. Don't text him back and wait and see what happens

[Ankou]

i bet she texts.

[sara3]

relationship rule no. 1.. the one who cares the least has all the power.

don't text him!

[sara3]

in fact, don't even reply if he texts you.. you can do better than this.

[gingejbee]

Isn't this a case where one phonecall is better than 100 texts?

[tamborine]

he's got you on a string to wind in when he's bored......get rid !

[DTCwordfan]

dump - send him to the dump. tell him to skip you.

[grasscarp]

men enjoy the chase, and if you do the chasing they can't do it. You need to play hard to get. DEFINITELY dont text him. No matter how hard you find it. I have never texted a man except in reply to his text, which may sound odd but is just the way I am. They always surface in the end. I once told a girl that if I only gave her one piece of advice it would be to stop contacting men - let them do the running. Some time later she said to me, in great surprise, you were right - they get in touch with me now!

[lourules]

i havent texted! im going to wait and see what happens... ive asked him to come out for a drink last night so ive done my part :)

[notasyoungasiwas]

OH texting the bane of modern life !!! What's wrong with phoning and actually speaking to the other person. I hear of people being dumped by text and it's so easy to make excuses on it. Not for me thanks (I don't care if I am old fashioned). Honestly lou this guy just isn't worth it !

[Craftypig]

What does he do for a job?

[MrsMeeagi]

A little bit of advice, do not text or pursue a guy first. Let him come to you. Men like the thrill of the chase and they always seem to want what they cant have. If you keep texting him then you are showing to him that you are easy and readily available. The more the guy chases you, texts you, calls you then the more he will want you and regard you as different from anyother girl. Don't make it too easy for him. You have probably seen this 100x's before: The minging guy you don't like keeps asking you out despite you repetedly rejecting him. Why? he wants what he can't have. The trick is to treat this guy, like you do with every guy who isn't interested. Sure it's game playing & sad BUT it keeps him interested. By you texting him first shows you like him, your easy, your too keen & readily available. Don't put yourself out there to be rejected by a man. If he likes you? He'll come to you. Make him chase! If I were you I'd stop texting, go out with friends, get more hobbys, keep busy & when he replys? wait sometime before replying!

[joe_s_angel]

well said mrsmeeagi ;)))))