Help me!

[xx cutie xx]

after having a year working i decided to go back to college. i thought it'd be a good way to make new friends as most of mine have moved away to uni and i thought i'd benefit from having more qualifications.the problem is there's this girl who's latched onto me (kinda my fault really i spoke to her cos no1 else did and i felt sorry for her) but she's annoying the hell out of me and she talks bout the most weird and boring things. so far iv pretended to be interested but its dragging me down now and people who used to speak to me dont now cos they associate me with her. i just want to be free to talk to the others and get her to leave me alone! how though? i need some help!

[Ward-Minter]

if you are a cutie, I'll be your friend.

[rampart]

Make yourself less available. For example, if you've met up with her before class, start arriving for class just seconds before the bell rings. Always have in your mind a list of things you have to do in case she asks you to go someplace. You can be polite, yet distance yourself from her.

[irisred]

Is it possible she's lonely and doesn't actually get out much?  Perhaps if you went out with her a few times and showed her there was more to life than whatever she normally talks about she might brighten up.

Also if your normal friends are now not talking to you because of her they weren't very good friends in the first place!

There are many different types of people in the world and although she may not be your type of person it doesn't make her a bad one.

If you really feel you cannot be friends with her be honest but chances are she'll do something surprising one day and you'll be really glad you got to know her. By all means distance yourself from her if you feel you have to but never be rude to her, you don't want to hurt anyones feelings.

Good luck with your studies!

[Drusilla]

Have the courage to tell her how you feel. She lacks social skills, but may have no idea why people don't relate to her. Try and give her specific examples and leave it to her to make the necessary changes, or not. If she chooses not to change, just walk. At least you will have tried to help.

[sophie_1003]

I had exactly the same problem, I just clarified to the other girls I get along with that I thought she was a bit of a weirdo and I just felt sorry for her!

[littlemissx]

sophie, just cos someone doesnt like the same things you do does not make them a weirdo!!! like someone mentioned previously good friends wont just drop you because you have another one.

[sophie_1003]

No she really was a weirdo, she kept coming on to loads of the girls on my course even though she knew they were straight. I'm not usually so judgemental but it freaked us out a bit.

[xx cutie xx]

Thank you for all your advice, i'll see what happens next week! i do actually think she's a bit weird and she does lack social skills. her attitude is she knows no one likes her but she doesn't know why and she doesn't care! not my kind of person!