Living with dirty messy people.

[Pro_sparky]

Hello all,
Has anyone lived with messy people or family?
I'm a guy and have lived with my partner and her 3 kids for over 13yrs and her mess has just broke me down.I constantly have to argue with her to tidy her mess up, i can give you some examples, dirty washing all over the house including dirty clothes piled up on the dining table and under it which are left there for WEEKS, dirty plates and cups under the sofa also left for weeks,she never cooks,cleans,shops,feeds the dog,takes the recycling or rubbish out,old letters and junk piled up for 6 months,she does not do anything around the house. Her 3 children are exactly the same, you cannot get into any of their bedrooms because there is junk and rubbish crammed in behind the doors and even on the beds. I have spoke to them and even to the point of shouting at them every few weeks but nothing gets through. We gutted the house and spent 25grand renovating it a yr ago from top to bottom which i done most of the work myself and the mess started coming back 3 wks after the work was finished which led to more shouting and arguing. I work 10hrs a day and do everything when i get home, i'm not saying my partner is lazy as she works equally as hard and earns nearly double what i do, but it's like she comes home and goes "oh to hell with it" then lies around and goes to bed. I'm sure most would say "don't clean" but believe me, that would be a bad thing. I went on holiday last year with friends for 2 wks and the house was trashed by the time i got back,no housework had been done and the dog looked thinner, and that's no joke. Do i need to move on because i can't get through to them,they do not respect me and they won't change?
Thanks,
Sparky

[ladybirder]

If it was me I would insist on getting a cleaner and she shares the expense. And if she won't agree I would leave if I were you as I couldn't live like that. And please please take that poor dog with you.