17 yr old Daughter

[DJKC]

Thanks to simsfreq and others who posted ans, My daughter told me Sat night she as a 20 yr old boyfriend as of Friday night, they have sort of seen each other in the pub for a while but both to shy to speak. Anyway she told me not to worry cos she wont be doing anything untill she feels happy with the lad, and she told him this as well. She says she wants to wait for Mr Right !!

I think i can stop worrying, well stop a little .

[JudgeJ]

Before you stop worrying entirely you should ask yourself (and her, and the landlord of the pub) what she is doing in the pub at 17 years of age.

[DJKC]

She is allowed in pubs at 17, she doesn't drink, his mother is the landlady. She goes for the music with her mate who are 18. I know what you mean about not stopping worrying tho.

Thanks

[january_bug]

I was drinking in pubs aged 15, and it never did me any harm!

DJKC - your daughter seems to have a healthy attitude to sex/virginity, so I will credit her (and you) to have the maturity to have a similar attitude towards drinking.  I actually think it's important that young people aged 16/17 go to pubs sometimes, just to get used to the "scene".  We all know (whether as parents, or as "kids") that the thing that your parents ban you from becomes the "must do" thing when you're a teenager.  The desire to rebel is so strong!!  I'm not a parent myself, but I tihnk you're taking a really sensible attitude. 

May I ask DJKC, are you the Mum or the Dad?  I only fell into this category on the way to news, so I haven't see posts that reveal your sex yet!! :-)  I only ask to be nosey!  :-)

[january_bug]

Just realised what an alcoholic I sounded!  For starters, I typo'd - I meant 16, i.e., the beginning of Y12 (I turned 17 in the January).  Even then I only used to have the odd one.  I started going out regularly when I was 17, but didn't get anywhere near durnk in public until I was 18.  If you can't make mistakes when you're young, when can you!?!

[DJKC]

Jan-bug I'm the Dad.

She does talk with Mum alot but I keep letting her know Im always here when she needs a stronger shoulder.

[january_bug]

Well, this is a matter for you and your daughter's Mum to discuss, but without giving too much information, let's just say that I wish I hadn't waited for someone so special as it's not such a "special" moment for every girl.  I don't mean to imply that you should advice her to jump into bed with the first guy she meets, just that it might be worthher Mum sitting her down and warning her that it's not necessarily going to be memorable for good reasons. 

I'm obviously pleased to hear of a sensible attitude and I entirely respect your opinion/decisions, I'm not trying to interfere!  I'm just saying that she shouldn't be fooled into thinking it's a joyous and special moment, when it might not be. 

Anyway, sounds like you've got the "parenting malarky" to a tee anyway! :-)

[Coobeastie]

Sounds like you Daughters got a level head. I met my partner when she was 15 (just shy of 16) down t'pub (or outside at least) I was 18 (just shy of 19). We've been together now for 11 years and are marrying next year so it doesn't need to be all doom and gloom.