Not my area of expertise, Mrs What, but it's something that is often asked, understandably. I agree that the most efficient, and very importantly, simple system is what your plumber has advised. I say simple, meaning likely to be trouble-free!
I think Al would agree that it's quite possible to connect a back-boiler in parallel with an oil boiler on the Primary circuit. (The circuit which provides the heated water to the Megaflow cylinder.) The problems start arising over control mainly. For instance, the boiler has a fully controllable thermostat........ nice and simple. The back boiler doesn't. Without going into a lot of techie stuff about diverter valves and cylinder thermostats etc (as I said, not really my field), the two heat sources are likely to conflict.
I can foresee times when the back boiler is operating, and the oil one isn't ............. and vice versa. It would become difficult to achieve overall control with two heat sources "competing"
Oil boiler with Megaflow .......... wonderful system. Add a w/burner (without b/boiler) ........ even better. Independent, seasonal control covering more or less, all eventualities.