Should I say something

[sherrardk]

It was my daughter's birthday party yesterday and the neighbours' twin daughters were invited but didn't show up (thought no more about it - maybe one of the was unwell or something had come up). We've been out all day to day and when we got home there was a present on the windowsill - no names on it and no card. Now I presume it's from the neighbours but what if I thank them tomorrow and it's not from them (which would be weird as I can't think who else it would be from). Any thoughts?

[Maydup]

Just ask them if they're all OK and see if they mention the present. If not tell them there was a present on the windowsill, and ask if they noticed anyone leave it.

[B00]

You could ask them if they'd left it couldn't you? Especially seeing as it didn't say who it's from, perfectly reasonable to ask them.

[Maydup]

PS Happy Birthday for yesterday little one !

[EvianBaby]

Couldn't you just say something along the lines of, "we missed you at the party. Did you leave something on the windowsill for us?"

[sherrardk]

Don't want to embarrass them if it's not from them, but don't want to be rude if it is from them.

[starone]

Thank them anyway. If they are being rude and have not given anything and not bothered to send their kids to the party it will make them feel guilty (so good) and if it is from them then no harm done. Would be nice to receive an explanation though, some people are very strange.

[boxtops]

It's odd just to leave it - could you not just say "someone left a present without a label, did you notice anyone calling while we were out"?

[welshlibranr]

agree with evianbaby sher, just tactfully ask them!.....how was Southerndown?........hope you had a great day!.......

[sherrardk]

Right, I will say something tactful - along the lines of we missed you at the party ...

Hi Welsh - Southerdown was fab, busiest we have seen it all year (and I got my curry when we got back to Hereford!).

[4getmenot]

You dont have to ask them. It was from me. Hope she liked it. x

[sherrardk]

Hi forget - she loved it thank you! (you gave her a Barbie doll by the way.)

[delphfolk]

Just a thought maybe they got there dates mixed up.

[welshlibranr]

Oh great sher!.....Southerndown is lovely, I was there with the boys after school on Thursday, we love it, so lucky it's only down the road, and very pleased that you got your Indian at long last!........

[4getmenot]

you dont have to tell me that, I know

[boxtops]

LOL @ 4get!

[sherrardk]

Hi delph - maybe, there are always children who don't show up for a party (for whatever reason). It's not a biggie (would have been different if the party was at one of those soft play places (£10 a head and you have to pay for no shows)).

[delphfolk]

very true

[joko]

starbuck one...why should they be made to feel guilty?

people are not obliged to go to parties, just because they're invited!
there could be all sorts of reasons they didnt go - they dont need to explain or apologise for not going ...and nor are they expected to still give a gift if they dont go!

if i was thanked for a gift i hadnt given i would not feel remotely guilty!

what a very odd attitude you have