really missing my daughter right now.

[goldenbolls]

i am from uk but am working in holland, i have only been away now for 2 weeks today and im missing my kid like hell, she is 2 yrs and 6 months now, last time i was away from her i was in training colledge in scotland for a week and when i arrived in throught the door that time her little face dropped and she burst into tears, i knew she really missed me back then. will children adapt to the parents being away for long periods of time, i reallly want to stay on and work but im missing my wife and kid big time, im probably more worried that it will affect my daughter as back home there is only her and my wife, i have no family back home ( we are not close ) wife is from asia and all her family are not there to support her so they are alone in uk this is what really hurts me, its hard to be strong at times, basically ive got 2 babies back home, ive told my wife to get her out more to park etc. do kids get used to the parents being away all the time ??? im going back home in 2 days time but then away next week for a 3 on 3 off shift pattern offshore, its making me think is this life really for me or not ? maybe i can try for a job back home but times are bad and it looks like im stuck here for now :-(

[Bobbisox]

it's a dreadful sacrifice that people are having to make to earn money for their family, I have no answer for you but I wish you well x

[bednobs]

hiya, i know you asked me not to answer any of your threads, but i really feel for you, it must be horrible to be away from them, but especially your daughter. I think children DO get used to parents being away (think how many kids don't have the dads living with them at all) and perhaps you should think of it that while you are not currently spending time with her, you are doing it so that you can support her financially and put food on the table, which is what she needs at the moment. I think you can't make the decision about whether it's the right life for you or not, you need to give it a go first

[ummmm]

It won't do her any harm. My daughters Dad went working away when she was under two. It has had no effect on their bond.

[factor-fiction]

It is hard and only you can make the decision, but if you do try another few weeks you'll have a better idea of whether you can cope with it.

[Leapers]

My dad was there on the day i was born after flying back to see it and then left the day after as he was in the army and was only back every now and again until i was 5, i don't know whether it has had much of a difference but i was used to it and don't really remember it now. Hope it goes well for you!

[EvianBaby]

My Dad was in the RAF and would be sent away on postings that were usually either 3 or 6 months. This was the case until he retired when I was about 12 and although I can remember him being away, I don't have a single memory of him leaving. We used to love sending blueys (although you couldn't use them, normal letters would do). They kept the connection up between us and I know they kept Dad going. Children are very resiliant although you miss your little girl there is no need to worry. When shes older she'll appreciate how it was all done for her.

[goldenbolls]

thanks guys, and thanks bednobs ;-) my spirits are lifted now knowing my daughter will get used to me being away from home, its a career path i have spent money on training etc and one that i want to stay on, just hope it works out. CHEERS

[rowanwitch]

lap top....web cams.... or simply old fashioned messages on audio cassettes send her little pictures you can draw for her...and when she can scribble a bit she can post some back.... anything that maintains the link... my dad died when I was your daughters age... you will be coming back.... it will be ok so long as your wife knows how much you love her and miss her she can pass that love on to your daughter