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[Infomaniac]

I feel really pathetic asking this as deep down I know the answer but can anybody at least empathise with a ninny who doesn't know what to do, or where to go, or how to carry on??

[Mamyalynne]

I am glad that you say that and sorry if I sounded intrusive, it can and does happen.

Try to gather yourself up and take things in control and go seek more help for you both, we want to hear how you get on, so keep us posted and the very best with all this.As regards seeming confident never be afraid to let the processionals know exactly how you really feel.

Mamya ♥

[sara3]

I've been through something similar. it's hard work and everyone thought I was coping so well.. so they back off and let you get on with it.

you must get some support. there must be a site for whatever illness he had, and you can probably meet others in the same situation. it really helps to share your problems with those in the same boat.

I do feel for you both, but don't keep trying to paint on that "coping" front. get some support.. you're not superwoman x

[ladyalex]

Are you feeling any better today, Info ?

Hope so.
And also hope you are resolved to try to get some help for yourself, whether medical, psychological or practical.
:-))

[Messalina]

Info, have you thought about The Samaritans? They are really good at just listening & letting you get it out. They don't judge & they don't try to get you on the happy pills.

[puzzled54]

There are some wonderful people who 'care' for carers. If you google 'carers uk' you may find some practical and moral support.

[ladyalex]

Try here:

http://www.carers.org/

[Old_Geezer]

Not sure how much I can add to the existing posts, but I will say that although it is natural not to want to 'burden' your son with your problems, there is a good chance he would not want you to bear them alone. Learn to share with the family and ask for help when you need it. We all need to accept there are times to give, and times to receive and allow the others their chance to give.

[clydeserani]

Having just found out last week that I may have a Malignant Cancer, ( I am 40 on Saturday) hoped it was just menopause kicking in but alas it is not, I wrote a wee thing that is now my Mantra.

As well as this I have all sorts of problems with my teenage daughter, my son wants to join the army just to escape from our home due to his sister, my fiance is an unhelpful and unsupportive Snag, I am constantly skint and worried about the winter fuel bills..But I have a wee baby son who is the light of my life.
Here is my wee Mantra. I hope it helps.

Wake up Everyday with a Smile
Being Happy can take you for Miles
Be Glad of what you Have, don’t regret what its Not
Be Grateful for Everything that you have Got

Life is for Living, for Caring and Giving
Always be Loving, Always Forgiving
Time is too Short to Live with Regret
Life is out there, so be Quick, Go and Get................x

[Mamyalynne]

Wonderful sentiments Clydeserani, I wish you well.

[rowanwitch]

Clydeserani...ask to see a macmillan benefits advisor...there is every chance you will get extra help and it will take a big worry off your shoulders

Infomaniac....there may be additional financial support for you too...maybe enough to buy in some extra services to give you some 'me time' which you will need at intervals

[debean]

In our area you can book an advance appointment with a named doctor.. Not sure if this is countrywide, but worth a try.. be assertive when you request one, because the receptionists around here are often reluctant to give one!

[bloaterbum]

There are times in your life when even getting out of bed seems like a challenge. At the risk of being boring, looking after my mom can leave me deflated and worthless. itried a counsellor once and found him useless; that is not too say they all are.Ifind chilling out on my own for a few hours is useful and it ain't that easy if you're married in your circumstances.Maybe a good friend if youhave one might lend a sympathetic ear

[boxtops]

Feel free to come on here any time, infomaniac - we're here. The suggestion about the Samaritans is a really good idea - it's impartial and there for you to talk. They help people with all sorts of problems these days. You're not a ninny - you've made a brave step coming on here and talking about it. ♥

[Infomaniac]

I just want to say a warm "thank you" to everyone who wrote and and gave me valuable support through those dark days. I am "out the other side" and feeling so much better and much of that is down to your generous support to a complete stranger.

[boxtops]

well done, info - I am very pleased for you that you are feeling better. Do come on here as and when you might feel in need of a bit of moral support - someone's always here :-)

[Mamyalynne]

So glad to hear that things are brighter. Sometimes just knowing that people will listen and not judge is a great comfort.

We are here if you need us.